You're fine

This probably isn't a big deal... by Thoth on 2017-12-27 16:12:00 UTC Reply

So... Um. hS said we could share personal stuff here if something big happened.

I kind of told chat already, so I figured I'd share here. Maybe it will help others, or something. I dunno. I have no clue what I'm doing, TBH. I'm just kind of doing it.

So... to stop delaying... um...

Last week, I kind of came out to my parents. It went... pretty well. They were really accepting. I guess I'm just glad to get it off my shoulders.

Oh, yeah. And I'm gay, by the way. In case you didn't know. Which you probably didn't. I haven't been super open about it until recently.

Thanks a lot, everyone. I mean it: if it weren't for you guys, I wouldn't be writing this post right now. I'd probably still be in the closet. I might not have even admitted my sexuality to myself.

Thank you so much, everybody. by Thoth on 2017-12-30 01:03:00 UTC Reply

...And I mean it. Thank you. All of you. Yes, even you.

You made this a heck of a lot easier than it could have been. You all helped me, some of you more than you even realize. And... Gah. Jeez. I forgot where I was going with this...

I guess, just... wow. I am so glad to have you all. Because it could be so much worse. And if I hadn't shown up here, it probably would have been.

Not to be a downer, but I'm curious. by son_of_heaven176 on 2018-01-06 03:52:00 UTC Reply

If I am stepping out of line, then please say so. However, what do you mean, "if I hadn't shown up here, it probably would have been[worse]"? I thought you mentioned that your parents were accepting and that you were glad to get it off your shoulders?

You're fine by Thoth on 2018-01-07 20:19:00 UTC Reply

The thing is, there's also self-acceptance that I had to deal with. Coming to terms with what I am and what that means.

You guys all helped a bunch with that, in no small part by being incredibly supportive. There were also specific boarders that did even more to help me talk it out and come to terms with it, in part by sharing their own experiences, but... I don't know if they want their names known, so that's all I'll say.

I'm happy for you. *offers hug* (nm) by eatpraylove on 2017-12-28 16:08:00 UTC Reply
Congrats. :) by Iximaz on 2017-12-28 15:36:00 UTC Reply

*throws rainbows* I'm glad your parents are cool with it.
Dai Stiho! =) We're glad. *Optional!Hugs* (nm) by S.M.F. on 2017-12-28 15:23:00 UTC Reply
Mate! by Larfen J. Stocke, esq. on 2017-12-28 11:28:00 UTC Reply

Hell yeah, mate! Hell yeah!

Aw hell yeah mate!

Good on ya, man, for being bold enough to come out, like that. It's a hard thing to do, it is, and you're a legend for having done it. And good bloody on your parents for taking it so well.

I'd reckon it's a big deal, it is, considering you reckon it's a big deal. It'd be nice if it wasn't but, that's how it is, innit? Still, good bloody on ya!
Re: This probably isn't a big deal... by OpinionedAngel on 2017-12-27 23:05:00 UTC Reply

Well good for you, I'm glad your folks were so accepting.

And don't worry about "coming out" here, I don't think anyone minds.

If they did, then it would be rather weird... (nm) by Thoth on 2017-12-27 23:31:00 UTC Reply

It shouldn't be a big deal... by Hardric on 2017-12-27 17:27:00 UTC Reply

As in, in a perfect world, you shouldn't have to worry about acceptance from the ones caring about you or you care about regarding who you are, it should go without saying.

Happy for you that it turned out well in the end.
*pats on back* Good that there wasn't trouble so far. by twistedwindowpane on 2017-12-27 17:24:00 UTC Reply

If you need to vent about any 'phobes in your community or are looking for a way to deal with them, I could try to help.

-Twistey
*hugs* by Neshomeh on 2017-12-27 16:24:00 UTC Reply

It's a big deal to you, so it's a big deal. {= ) I'm so glad your parents are supportive and that the PPC could be a place of support and encouragement for you, too. I hope it continues to be so. You are welcome, you are accepted, and you are loved, for exactly who you are. Even as that evolves and changes over time, as it does for us all.

And that goes for anyone else out there who's struggling with their identity, too.

~Neshomeh