Subject: You make good points.
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Posted on: 2015-08-30 16:15:00 UTC

Story time: my first serious boyfriend was a sweet guy. He was shy, but he loved hanging out with his friends; we and a mutual buddy got together one Halloween to dress up in menacing robes and scare little kids. ^^; Lots of fun.

He was a very talented saxophone player, and a fan of the Beatles; he drove everyone in band crazy by constantly playing "Yellow Submarine" during individual warmups (though the one time he didn't, everyone freaked out, heh heh). He was a huge Lord of the Rings fan and an avid Minecraft player. He had two dogs that he loved, a little sister (who... actually ended up dating my little brother for a few months, that was cute. But weird. But also cute.), and very nice parents.

All in all, a pretty normal guy. He is also autistic, and I didn't find out until about a year and a half after we broke up.

My brother was also tested for autism and he narrowly avoided being diagnosed with Asberger's, and he later told me he cheated because he didn't want to be labeled a 'crazy' like me. So it's very possible I have an autistic brother as well. Aside from liking to make hilariously inappropriate jokes at the worst possible times, he's also pretty normal. Very smart kid, straight As, lots and lots of Advanced Placement classes, plays tennis for the varsity team, and he's built himself a couple of robots as well. He loves to play World of Warcraft and Minecraft, and he has the D&D fourth edition Monster Manual memorized.

You wouldn't look at this stuff and say "Aha! Autistic!" You'd say "Yeah, he's a geek."

My dad has a friend whose son (a few years older than me) is also autistic, and the only clue to people who don't know is that he sometimes has to get away from a loud party by going to a separate room. And considering I'm the same way, albeit for different reasons, it's not a massive tip-off by itself.

Tl;dr, you can't always tell. :)

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