Subject: Well.
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Posted on: 2015-08-21 12:21:00 UTC
Now that I've got some hours of sleep: Well, the thing is that there were two distinct issues in this line of conversation last night.
#1: Scape was rude. You were right to call her out on it. She apologised, and I think that's it for that; holding her rudeness against her after she apologised has a score of, em, unfortunate implications, let's say.
#2: The title of your post was poorly phrased. It looks to me like there's an "and you shouldn't be, so go away" ending implied. Basically, people have a right to voice their opinion, and being rude doesn't mean they have to shut up; being rude means being called out and, optimally, apologising. The thing is, it looks to me like you've mixed the two, and that's why I think you owe Scape an apology.
Also... frankly, what pissed me off last night is that people were saying "look, there's an issue" and not following up with "and I think a, b, c would be good things to avoid the similar Bad Stuff that happened in the past" or "I don't know how to resolve this, do you have any ideas?". That might be my biases (or issues with people a person I've met, =/) speaking, but it really pissed me off. What's more, it feels uncomfortably similar to "your story has issues a, b, c" (as opposed to "Look, you've got problems a, b, c in the story; try doing d, e, f to make it better" or "there are problems a, b, c with your story; I'm not quite sure how to solve them, but please pay attention") to me.
I really hope I didn't end up rambling here, because I've the sinking feeling this makes a lot more sense to me than it'll to anybody else.