So it was a semantic issue

Asking for your help. by Iximaz on 2016-11-08 21:52:00 UTC Reply

As some of you might already know, I identify as genderfluid (primarily agender). I've finally decided to medically transition and I need money.

No, I'm not asking you to donate. That's just... no. ^^;

But if you could take just a few minutes of your time to share my GoFundMe page with friends on Facebook or Tweet it or whatever, it would be a huge help and greatly appreciated. The more people who see it, the better.

Shared by Akrinor on 2016-11-18 21:39:00 UTC Reply

Sadly, money's a bit tight right now, so I can't donate myself.

Thank you for sharing! by Iximaz on 2016-11-19 15:44:00 UTC Reply

Just getting the campaign seen by others is more than enough help. :)

Over $200 raised now! by Iximaz on 2016-11-18 16:46:00 UTC Reply

Thank you so much guys for getting the word out for me. I'm... I don't really know what to say other than I'm touched. It means a lot to me.

I'm now only $2000 away from my February goal. I think this could really happen. :D
Definitely shared. Good luck! (nm) by The Good Mod Addict on 2016-11-10 16:30:00 UTC Reply

Thanks a ton! (nm) by Iximaz on 2016-11-10 16:36:00 UTC Reply

Shared it :) (nm) by eatpraylove on 2016-11-09 23:12:00 UTC Reply

Thank you!~ (nm) by Iximaz on 2016-11-09 23:12:00 UTC Reply

I'll share. *hugs* (nm) by TheShyIon on 2016-11-09 16:39:00 UTC Reply

Thank you! It means a lot. (nm) by Iximaz on 2016-11-09 18:18:00 UTC Reply

Unfortunately, I can't help much... by Sergio Turbo on 2016-11-09 16:17:00 UTC Reply

Being basically socially unactive and all. But I still want to wish you the best of luck.

*hug* by Iximaz on 2016-11-09 18:18:00 UTC Reply

I'm gonna need it. Six week recovery is gonna be rough.

Moral support sent. by Hardric on 2016-11-09 14:28:00 UTC Reply

And Sweet Philemon, you'll need it with America gone mad.
Cannot exactly do more, sorry. PPC is the only web community where I'm remotely active.

It's appreciated. Thank you. :) (nm) by Iximaz on 2016-11-09 18:18:00 UTC Reply

Ai, heck of a time for it. by VixenMage on 2016-11-09 13:38:00 UTC Reply

I wish you all health and luck, Ix, and stand with you in solidarity. I went to bed wondering if I should opt for a mad dash to the closet in one direction or another - and which direction would be safer. I think in the end, we're going to have a long four years, but I hope we can all face them head on.

And but so, reading your post has given me a shot of courage. I'm glad you were able to stand up and shout, and I'll share this around to try and help you.

Luck, health, and happiness,
VM

Yeah... by Iximaz on 2016-11-09 14:18:00 UTC Reply

Now that Trump's won I'm half-reconsidering, but I've waited too long for this to happen and I'll be getting the procedure done around the time he's inaugurated, so hopefully before he can start doing damage.

*hugs*

What a time to be alive...

I've sent the word out! by Aegis on 2016-11-09 13:28:00 UTC Reply

*hugs*
Best of luck.
Message boosted, chief! (nm) by Matt Cipher on 2016-11-09 09:39:00 UTC Reply

*hugs tight* (nm) by Iximaz on 2016-11-09 14:15:00 UTC Reply

I know I'll be in the minority here, but I'll ask anyway... by son_of_heaven176 on 2016-11-09 03:01:00 UTC Reply

What brought you to this decision? Of course, if you don't want to answer, feel free not to, but I would like to know what made you willing to undergo such a (literally) life-altering change.

To cut a very, very long story short: by Iximaz on 2016-11-09 03:08:00 UTC Reply

I've always been very uncomfortable with my chest even before I began questioning my gender identity, and finally coming out to my (mercifully accepting) parents is what made me decide to go ahead and do it now, rather than wait until later. Plus, January/February is when my first job's schedule slows down, and I'll be going back to school and subsequently dropping my second job (seasonal) so I'll be able to take the time off that's needed to recover.

Basically, for me, it was a question of when and not if. I bind, which is a) itchy, b) uncomfortable, and c) not nearly a good enough substitute for the real deal. It'll be a relief to have this off my chest at last—literally. I can't wait to be able to go to the pool in just trunks, to be able to run without any pain... and hopefully it'll also stop my recurring tumors from growing back.

And yes, that was the short story. I left out the angsting that happened in-between. :P

Please allow me to play devil's advocate a bit more... by son_of_heaven176 on 2016-11-09 03:28:00 UTC Reply

There's a lot more to being a boy than having pecs instead of boobs. If self-image is your main issue, then there are less drastic ways of dealing with it.

Did you miss the "recurring tumors" bit? by Iximaz on 2016-11-09 03:32:00 UTC Reply

And that's also implying I want to present as solely male, which I don't.

I made my decision years ago; it's only now that I'm finally able to act on it.

It's kind of fascinating, really, when a woman says she wants to get a breast enhancement nobody bats an eye, but when a trans person wants to get their breasts removed everyone loses their minds.

I could have been a bit more specific... (Squicky?) by son_of_heaven176 on 2016-11-09 03:48:00 UTC Reply

No, I did not miss that bit. I was (obviously too obliquely) alluding to a mastectomy, which sounded like what you were really looking for anyway. Pardon me if I sounded blunt there, but I did not see any other way to word it.

But you've opened another avenue of questioning. You just said: "And that's also implying I want to present as solely male, which I don't." Yet the thread that started this clearly said, "I've finally decided to medically transition". Again, feel free not to answer, but otherwise, please resolve this paradox.

Transition is possible for nonbinary people. by Iximaz on 2016-11-09 03:52:00 UTC Reply

Which I stated I was in the first post: genderfluid, primarily agender. Transition can mean a wide variety of things for different people; some transition socially, some transition medically through hormones, top surgery, and/or bottom surgery. My medical transition is going to consist only of a double mastectomy, because I don't want anyone messing around with my other bits and going on testosterone just isn't my idea of fun.

Not a paradox, just a misunderstanding.

So it's a semantic issue, then. by son_of_heaven176 on 2016-11-09 04:03:00 UTC Reply

Unless I am mistaken, "transition" implies gender reassignment.

So unless you're also going to be asking the doctors to give you man…like…pecs…
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*looks back at previous page*
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(and it seems like that may well be what you'll be asking for (please correct me if I'm wrong)), then all you needed to say was that you were considering a double mastectomy, not to medically transition.

Nope. by Iximaz on 2016-11-09 04:33:00 UTC Reply

Double mastectomy removes all breast tissue; FTM top surgery leaves some behind to shape and contour for a more masculine chest, which is what I'm hoping to achieve.

So it was a semantic issue by son_of_heaven176 on 2016-11-09 04:42:00 UTC Reply

Though not where I originally thought: you said, "My medical transition is going to consist only of a double mastectomy, because I don't want anyone messing around with my other bits and going on testosterone just isn't my idea of fun."

Either way, thanks for clearing up the initial confusion. I could theoretically ask more questions, but frankly, I don't think at this point that there would be any benefit to either of us from me continuing.

Here's hoping that those recurring tumors become a thing of the past.

Shared. by Neshomeh on 2016-11-09 01:43:00 UTC Reply

I know a lot of my crowd will be sympathetic, even if they can't donate. {= )

~Neshomeh

That's all I can ask. :) by Iximaz on 2016-11-09 01:58:00 UTC Reply

The only social media I have myself is Twitter, and I don't use it very often. I need help getting this seen by others and every little bit makes a huge difference. *hugs*

Boosted! And asked friends of mine to boost. (nm) by S.M.F. on 2016-11-09 01:07:00 UTC Reply

Thank you so much! (nm) by Iximaz on 2016-11-09 01:16:00 UTC Reply