Subject: So very true.
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Posted on: 2009-07-18 04:19:00 UTC
We have agreed to make some house rules together, and I intend for hygiene and cleanliness to be among them. The apartment is too small for anything else.
As for smells, we all make them occasionally. No help for that. {= )
Thank you for the advice. I DO look forward to unpacking and shelving as many books as possible. Between the two of us, there are rather a lot. *g*
~Neshomeh
Yes indeed. Continuing my masquerade as a Responsible Adult, I am, at long last, moving away from my parents and in with my fiance. The last few weeks for me have been spent packing, packing, going to see our apartment, and packing, which is why my activity (and my sanity) has been spotty lately. I'm shooting for the final move to happen this Sunday. How much I'll be around after that will depend on whether my fiance has signed us up for an internet connection by then and, of course, by time spent on the job hunt and then the job itself.
Big change is ahead for me. I don't know yet how much it will affect my PPC activities, but I don't plan to quit. Let's just say I'll be around as much as I'm able.
~Neshomeh
You've been such a help getting me in the swing of things, and I wish you well.
... Speaking of which, I don't think you got around to sending me a revised draft. Is that under construction? I may be able to look it over if you can get it to me tomorrow.
~Neshomeh, practicing at time management.
I moved in with my boyfriend (and now my fiance) a few years back and I have to say it's probably one of the best things I ever did. I'm sure you'll have a great time.
If I may pick your brain:
a) Was it hard at first?
b) How did you handle it?
~Neshomeh, who gets stressed out by change, even good change.
a) Getting used to someone else's habits always is a little, I think, but when I moved out I was so sick of living at home that anything seemed better, and by the time the novelty wore off we were used to each other :)
b)When things were difficult, I handled it by going 'okay, WHY is he acting like this?' and by making sure I didn't hold a grudge. And getting things out in the open. Don't let little grievances fester. That's the most important thing. Have a little argument now when you can easily make it up, rather than letting them build to the point where you have a huge argument that you can't just pout for a bit over and then go ask for a cuddle afterwards.
Change is scary. But it's probably scary for him too, even if he won't admit it. You'll be fine, and you'll have fun :D
A few pearls of wisdom I've picked up while living with a male housemate:
1) Impress upon him the importance of toilet roll. Living with your parents, you'll have had a mother with sense and a well trained father. Living with your young man, you may well find that he's perfectly capable of saving up his poos until he gets to work, and doesn't realise that this method does not actually work for women.
2) Be prepared for an array of unpleasant substances on tissues dotted about your home. Earwax is the prime culprit in this house, although given your average man there are many other possibilities.
3) There will be Smells. You have been warned.
I wish you the best of luck in your man-training. And also in your moving. Still, at least you get unpacking and shelving books to look forward to.
We have agreed to make some house rules together, and I intend for hygiene and cleanliness to be among them. The apartment is too small for anything else.
As for smells, we all make them occasionally. No help for that. {= )
Thank you for the advice. I DO look forward to unpacking and shelving as many books as possible. Between the two of us, there are rather a lot. *g*
~Neshomeh
Ah, you think you're prepared for the smells. I smile at the innocence, but at the same time I grieve for the awakening you will have. Boys' bums, seriously. There's something abnormal going on up there.
I think Trojie has the best words of wisdom, actually. I'm not living with a boyfriend, just with a housemate who happens to be a man. Once a month we find me going absolutely mental at him over the slightest things. We've both found it helps to stop and think "hang on, why is she doing this?" When he realises I'm hormonal, he doesn't take it personally, and when I realise I'm hormonal, I immediately say as much, and apologise for not really being that in control of what an enormous bitch I'm being. Overall, it works pretty well, and you can see how it wouldn't if it were never commented on. So that's probably your best bit of advice to take on board - always consider the whys before you jump to being royally pissed off (and hope to Glod he does the same).
What shelving system have you decided on? Are you merging books or keeping them separate? Alphabetised? Dewey decimalised? And how many books - have you been sad enough to count?
I moved to Japan with only what I could carry on my back. Of course I miss all my books and what not. But it is a nice change!
Gambate with your move.
Leto
I don't think I'm quite that adventurous. ^_^; Thanks, though.
~Neshomeh
Quite a masquerade to keep up, isn't it?
Good for you! I wish you luck, and wish I had more interesting things to say, but I don't, so I'll either ramble on randomly or just shut up and say good luck.
Hmm...
Good luck!
I certainly don't FEEL like a responsible adult.
Thanks!
~Neshomeh