Subject: On censorship and giftedness.
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Posted on: 2013-04-03 17:48:00 UTC

That word, "censor," I do not think it means what you think it means. It's a rather heavily loaded term, so I think it's important to clear this up: To censor something is to block it from expressing, so if you were being censored, you'd be prevented from expressing yourself through speech, behavior, and/or other means. That does not appear to be what you're describing, so perhaps a different term is called for?

Also, being intellectually gifted does not automatically confer emotional maturity, so just because a smart kid can comprehend the language used to describe adult topics doesn't mean they're ready to process those topics in a healthy way. Every kid is different, even the smart ones, and in most cases I'd trust parents to know their kid's limits better than other people. After all, they have (hopefully) been around for the kid's whole life.

For some context about where I'm coming from, I was talking at nine months, brought in a toy plesiosaur for "P" week in preschool, and learned the mechanics of where babies come from at about age three and a half, when my mom got pregnant with my little brother. No topic was taboo in my house. I remember having a conversation about AIDS when I was in elementary school, and at first thinking we might be talking about the people who helped out in the cafeteria (it was actually about not being scared of people who are sick).

I still wasn't allowed to watch R-rated movies or read books with adult themes intended for adults, even if I was curious about said themes, until I was old enough, because I would have been scared or confused or disgusted, or some combination, and would probably have been traumatized to some degree, and my parents knew that about me. Probably from experience, since no one is perfect—my mom tells the story about the movie Airplane had me freaked out and refusing to eat fish sticks for months when I first saw it, because I was just a kid and didn't get the dark humor. Oops.

Come to think of it, I still don't eat fish sticks, though that could just be a function of growing out of them. Sushi is where it's at now.

Anyway, just want to go on record as kid who was bright for my age and who had the emotional maturity of... a kid my age... whose parents managed my media intake appropriately for the most part. {= )

~Neshomeh, supposedly some kind of responsible adult now, with a marriage and taxes and everything.

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