Subject: Ugh, no. Not in the slightest.
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Posted on: 2016-04-20 19:34:00 UTC

I remember the Jacer incident, yes. I remember that Tray and a few others attacked Jacer for reasons the rest of us didn't understand, that several of us oldbies (and non-oldbies) told them off for it. Data may have forgotten that I was one of the people who Tray didn't speak to and blew up at for that, but I have not.

I also remember that Tray never apologized to any of us, and held the grudge against hS and you to the point where they did make unbased personal attacks against you both repeatedly and probably should have been banned at that point. (But I don't think Data was around for that bit, due, IIRC, to family priorities taking time.) I also - as someone else has pointed out - acknowledge that memory is malleable and unreliable, even with logs.

Look, what it comes down to for me is this. I remember how July acted on the IRC and Board, I remember her repeatedly bullying people and driving people away who she didn't approve of. I agree with Data that it has been an incredibly toxic behavior, and understand their incredulity that it seemed to be tolerated for so long - even protected by behavior norms (or., "don't rock the boat"). I, unlike Data, am rather still hoping she's grown up (as have we all - ye gods would I hate to meet the person I was in 2012), and isn't continuing it - that this was a one-off problem, not the repeating of a pattern. But I absolutely can't blame them for jumping to that conclusion, not for getting defensive when everyone either called them a liar, or defended July, or both.

And I don't like the precedent this sets.

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