Subject: Clarification re. "little birdie"
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Posted on: 2022-10-01 03:31:45 UTC

I'm guilty of having a knee-jerk reaction to the phrasing "a screenshot of your Discord info." That sounds to me like contact or personal information, which has no business being shared without someone's permission, especially behind the scenes by an anonymous person who may or may not be acting in good faith.

I also don't love the idea of anyone going around reporting on other members' activities, anonymously or not. I do agree that it's not okay to gossip about people behind their backs, but I generally* include telling second-hand tales of "so-and-so said thus-and-such about you!" in that category. That's why I wanted to facilitate an actual conversation between you and kA and Scarlett instead, so you could all clear the air with each other and avoid building up more and more assumptions based on hearsay and echo-chamber-say.

* With exceptions: I need to know what people are saying if I've harmed them and need to make amends, or if they're saying things that will harm me and I need to be safe.

That said, I was wrong to suggest that you shouldn't be told the exact words that were said about you once the matter was brought to your attention. I didn't exactly mean that—I meant it shouldn't have been done in that shadowy, possibly doxxing-y way—but I've been reliably informed that it seemed otherwise. Also, in this particular instance, I believed no one was trying to hurt anyone else and so we could all trust each other to be honest once it was brought into the open, but that wasn't my call to make. I definitely let my ego interfere with my judgement, figuring everything was fine because it was me handling it. I'm sorry for that and for being overly interfering.

(Regarding the Legendaries thread, some of your sentences don't seem to have survived autocorrect intact, so I'm not entirely understanding you, and I'll hold off saying more about that.)

~Neshomeh

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