Disclaimer: I'm about to be somewhat strident in tone. This is more because I'm confused than because I'm angry, and in any case, it's not personal. We don't have to agree on this to be friends, as far as I'm concerned. {= )
Now, first, kindly note that I said "most things," not every thing ever, and I even pointed out a non-canon scene that I particularly like. I'm not asserting that filmmakers are robots who exist to turn books I like into movies.
Second, with that firmly established, I'm not quite sure what you're meaning to defend in the case of the LotR films, especially since you've mentioned you're not really a fan. As for me, I'm basically objecting to Peter Jackson's established tendency to take a serious fantasy drama with noble characters and epic themes and, according to his stylistic choices and preferences, turn it into a cartoonish action romp with stupid, petty characters and no noticeable thematic overtones. Granted, this is far more obvious in the Hobbit films than the LotR ones, but I think you can see the tendency in most of the things I mentioned about the LotR films, nonetheless. If you disagree, would you care to discuss specific examples?
My basic point is that any changes should be done in service to the story as told in its new medium. If you need to cut some scenes, conflate some character roles, even make some things happen in a slightly different way if it'll save screen time and doesn't butcher the characters/themes in the process, go for it. Adding scenes that tell us nothing we needed to know, add to the run-time, and undercut the characters/themes, no. Changing the course of events in a way that makes less sense, adds to or doesn't change the run time, and butchers the characters/themes, no.
Also, to answer your question re. creative folks, even though I know it was rhetorical: That's what original writing and even fanfiction are for. And we don't like it much when people randomly insert their pepper-jack cheese into their fanfic, either. Bottom line, if you're choosing to tell a story that isn't yours, you're choosing not to exercise your full creative potential on it from square one.
Here's an analogy that might work:
So, J.R.R. Tolkien came up with this great cake recipe. He got really famous for it. Everybody loved his cake. (Okay, almost everybody; it was too heavy and rich for some. No problem, we love them anyway.)
Then along came Peter Jackson. He wanted to make Tolkien's cake recipe, but his modern kitchen was totally different from Tolkien's, so he had to do things a little differently. That would have been fine, but then he decided he wanted to put his own spin on the cake. Instead of butter, there's margarine. Okay, we can deal with that. But instead of chocolate, there's just carob, and there's these cinnamon candies that weren't there before, and the icing is too sweet now and also green for some reason, which doesn't really hurt anything but is kinda weird and off-putting. He calls it Tolkien's cake, and it's mostly still Tolkien's recipe, but when you eat it, it's not. And that's not nice.
~Neshomeh