Subject: This is good to know.
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Posted on: 2013-06-23 05:10:00 UTC

Though, I'm not sure how "overbearing librarian" fits with "coddling and oversweet," since my idea of an overbearing librarian is the kind that is constantly telling people to be quiet and scolding them for getting fingerprints on the pages, and my idea of coddling is telling people how splendid and delightful it is that they love books so much even if they're tearing the pages out and eating them. I'll cop to a certain kinship with the former, though. I like making order and it bugs me when people don't notice it, or get it wrong, or ignore it.

If it helps, I do tend to pick my words carefully, and I do try to avoid confrontations and heated arguments as much as possible while not keeping silent about things that matter to me. I figure I'm not going to be very successful at making points and winning people over to my point of view if I let my emotions get the better of me and just blurt things out without considering the ramifications, and definitely not if I go off on a rant every time some little thing irritates me—but I can see how what I call "exercising restraint" and "picking my battles" could come off as sugar-coating or coddling if you're the type of person who prefers to be told things bluntly. If that's the case, I can adjust my approach where you're involved in the future.

I find that most people don't respond well to bluntness, though. The truth hurts; you catch more flies with honey than vinegar; if you can't say somethin' nice, don't say nothin' at all; etc.

~Neshomeh

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