Subject: Talk to me however you choose.
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Posted on: 2013-06-23 10:07:00 UTC

I can definitely vouch for your approach. And, true to what I said, you only mean well in what you do, but it's hard to express over the internet, and so some bits are lost in translation.

I guess I've been raised to see coddling and overbearing down to the absolute smallest point. Where I grew up, you were either pushed around and mocked or spoken down to and given a plastic smile, and after eighteen years of that, it definitely has stuck with me, so I'm way more critical now of people who wear a face of niceness around me.

And, as I said, I sometimes see people choosing their words and misread it as something more nefarious than what is, so I tend to just let my passion fly when I get on a topic that matters to me. It definitely has a habit of upsetting people, but I find when I choose my words and try to avoid confrontation, I get written off as some kind of spineless wimp.

I'm kind of in a bind anywhere I go, so it's somewhat unfamiliar for me that people here on the board are as genuine as they are.

Hence, I have to hold back a lot of misguided thoughts about people - like, trying to explain a point and getting frustrated when it doesn't click becoming "overbearing librarian", or being polite and well-mannered being turned into "coddling."

If you ever need to be blunt with me, by all means do so, because I can definitely handle it. But, as I said at the start, I'm not much of a combatant personally, and can definitely vouch for a peaceful, unbiased and carefully worded approach.

Meanwhile, I'll just continue being good guy SC, how about that?

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