Subject: That is...
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Posted on: 2019-08-05 19:49:00 UTC

A gross mischaracterization of our position.

Allow me to enlighten you.

Firstly, I don't think the majority of people here would just outright call Bram a "bad person". Some may—a good number of us have suffered a great deal at their hands—but we do understand that it's more complicated than that because this is not a storybook and we aren't children.

Well, some of us actually are children, or teenagers at least, but the point stands.

No. Our issue with Bramadin is not that they're a bad person. Our issues are as follows:

-Bram has continually proven themselves either unwilling or unable to uphold the standards of this community. These standards are not arbitrary, nor this this bullying: these are standards that every community member is held to. Including me. Including hS. Including Ix, including Neshomeh, including everyone else you have spoken to today.

-Bram has proven themselves willing to lie to get what they want. They have repeatedly circumvented bans, created fake identities, and otherwise behaved in a way that is not only unacceptable within the PPC, but unacceptable within any online community.

-Bram has proven that they are unwilling to accept the community's decisions and to stand by them—see above.

-Bram had repeatedly harassed and insulted PPC members.

-Despite many attempts, quite a few of which have had verbatim logs publically posted, logs that I have read, to listen to them, and to negotiate, Bram is unwilling to accept any sort of compromise that isn't "I get everything I want." Hence, your claim that "you would be done with her if you just listened" is blatantly, laughably wrong.

As to your claim that, according to Bram those efforts were misrepresented or that Phobos lied, or whatever else, the people who have tried to work something out with Bram are longstanding PPC members. They aren't beyond reproach, but they have time and again proven themselves to be honest, upstanding, and willing to act within the rules and standards of this community. Bram has not proven to be any of the above. In fact, through their actions, Bram has proven themselves to be deceitful, dishonest, and only willing to follow the rules when it suits them. As such, I do not trust Bram's word on this matter.

-The original incident that lead to Bram's initial banning is also irrelevant. Several PPC members have apologized for things that happened at that times (despite your assertion that we think we did nothing wrong). However, this incident is not why Bramadin was permanently banned. Bram was permanently banned because of the things that occurred after that incident, events that proved definitively that Bram was both unwilling and uninterested in following the rules and expectations of our community.

-Whatever mental health problems Bram may have, that does not excuse her behavior. Many PPCers also have mental health issues, and they are perfectly able to function within this community. And if it is true that Bram's condition makes functioning within this community impossible, then, quite simply, Bram cannot be a part of this community. The rules and standards that Bram repeatedly violated are what allow this community to function, and their violation is inexcusable: it literally cannot be excused. We wish Bram the best and hope they find the help they need to deal with the issues they have, but we are not psychiatrists, or any other sort of therapists. We are not the ones to give that help.

-Quite frankly, Bram has outworn any good will that they may have had, and given their continual flaunting of our rules, good will was all they were riding on. In my personal opinion, Bram has been given more chances than any who has so throughly violated the rules and expectations given to them deserve. It is a testament to the forgiving nature of the PPC that Bram was given so many chances. And the fact that Bram has very definitely run out of chances is proof that even the PPC's forgiveness has limits.

Once again, I must urge you to read the logs of the discussions with Bram that are https://ppc.fandom.com/wiki/User:Toopurple>on the wiki. Speaking as someone who was present for all of it, I can vouch for the fact that they are unaltered, unadulterated, and entirely accurate. You claim to have read them. Perhaps you have. However, if you have not, you should. Because it really does seem like you are not only unaware of our position, but also unaware of what Bram actually did and how bad it got.

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