Subject: I feel you are missing the crux of this issue.
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Posted on: 2019-08-07 13:14:00 UTC

You say, "If you don't want to hang out with a person because of their disability . . ."

What we are trying to communicate to Bramandin is not that we don't want to hang out with her because of her disability. We are trying to say that, because of Bram's disability, we are not capable of interacting with her in any positive or supportive capacity. This situation has developed into the conflict it is due to miscommunications run rampant; the more we interact with Bram, the more miscommunications will crop up, which will lead to further strife and stress for both Bram and this community.

And that sucks, to use very blunt language. It sucks that we aren't able to interact successfully with Bramandin. This is not Bramandin's fault, and neither is it our own. The two parties simply do not have the collective skill to get along. It sucks, but it is fact.

And if continued interaction will continue to end in failure, and cause heartache on both sides, how can we justify wanting that to continue? It will be more healthy for both Bramandin and this community when the two parties stop interacting. Therefore, severing ties is the best course of action, and the only solution that prevents endless hurt feelings going forward.

—doctorlit

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