Subject: Seconding
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Posted on: 2012-05-12 16:41:00 UTC
More than a patina of sense, I think. {= )
But yeah, it's that level of involvement that does it, I think, and it doesn't just go for here. You only have to look as far as those shipping wars to know that people get very emotionally involved with their fandoms. We come to know these fictional people and places through their story, and we come to care about what happens to them—at least, we do if the writing's any good—and that extends easily to what happens to them in fanfic. As far as I can determine as someone not actually inside their heads, Jay and Acacia were emotionally involved with The Lord of the Rings, and that's why they started the PPC in the first place: it bothered them to see people getting it so far wrong over and over again, and they decided to have some fun and catharsis at the same time. I think that's probably why lots of us joined up: fun and catharsis, and you can't have catharsis without emotions.
And then, once you've been hanging around the Board and/or writing PPC stories a while, the time and energy commitment starts to add up to greater emotional investment, too. It's the same as any kind of club in that respect. I'm perhaps more emotionally involved than other people because I've been actively writing about my characters and being a part of this group for a real damn long time, and that means something to me. I have friends here, and that means something, too. I have a story to tell, I am a writer, and I can't not be emotionally invested in my work, my acts of creation. Learning to detach enough to take concrit is a hard lesson for a lot of us, ya know? It's just natural to be emotionally invested in things that you make, whether it's writing, art, songs, a sandcastle, whatever. I have heard of authors comparing writing a book with raising a child, George R. R. Martin, for one. Obviously it's not exactly the same, but the point is, creating something and being involved in its growth and development is an emotional experience.
And we're all contributing to this big shared universe, and seeing it grow and develop with each new spin-off. Part of the fun is that we're all doing it together, or at least alongside one another. Of course we're going to care what other people do with it.
That's not to say that moderation shouldn't happen, though. Like I said, you have to learn to gird your loins and hear concrit (if you want to improve), and yeah, there are things that can be interpreted differently, and that shouldn't be a basis for hatred and vitriol. I think shipping wars are silly, myself, and I wouldn't miss them if they disappeared forever . . . but then, I'm not really interested in who sleeps with whom in any sphere of my life. It's not my bag—I can let other people worry about that stuff. That's what the DBS is for; I'm more concerned with things making logical and narrative sense, so it's the DIC and DMS for me.
. . . Kaitlyn, I'm kinda wondering why you joined up. If you're not invested in your fandoms or writing at all, what brought you here in the first place? Also, what's the difference when it comes to other people being more emotionally committed than you—why does that concern you? I'm curious, because on the surface it doesn't seem to fit with "don't be so bothered about what other people do" and "don't expect everyone see things the same way you do." I'm genuinely puzzled and wanting to know.
Also, to address the bit about expecting other people to see things the exact same way: I'll be honest, if I can talk someone into seeing it my way, I will certainly enjoy that, and so of course I'll try. But I don't object to anyone honestly disagreeing with me, as long as they're polite about it, and I'm not going to go cry in a corner or anything if I don't succeed. It helps if they actually have a solid case based on facts and principles and stuff, too, just because it's easier to understand why the difference exists that way, and I like understanding. I also like being right and winning arguments, but making the effort isn't the same as expecting to succeed all the time. I don't want anyone to capitulate without actually being convinced by what I have to say. That's a hollow victory at best; it's not satisfying. {= P
So no, I don't expect everyone to see everything the exact same way I do. That doesn't mean I won't give it a shot, though.
~Neshomeh