Subject: Makes sense.
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Posted on: 2012-05-12 19:43:00 UTC

I think you may be confusing my feelings with my reasons for acting on them, though. I felt something was off long before I actually spoke up about it, which only happened after I'd worked out why I was feeling that way and thought I could explain it. My feelings don't give me authority, I agree, but my argument on behalf of my standpoint should, if it is judged to be sound.

I did use some stronger language than I usually like to do, by which I mean I failed to qualify some of my statements with modifiers like "I think" or "in my opinion," etc. This is because I was pretty well convinced that my case was a strong one and it could support such language. However, I only get authority when I say things like that if other people agree that I'm right and that they should do what I say.

Let me try putting it this way: just as hS can't actually change stuff in the PPC if we don't agree that he can, I can't actually order people around unless they agree that I can.

If the person I'm talking to agrees that I can tell them what to do based on my argument, then I'm not sure why I'm at fault. If I've wielded the authority I've been given like a club, I should definitely be chastised, but I'm not convinced I've done that. I gave reasons for my opinion; I made a case. I can't think of a time I've ever asked anyone to take me solely at my word. I make it a point not to say anything unless I think I can back it up, and if it turns out I'm wrong anyway, I will (however grudgingly) admit it and change my stance. That requires a good, solid counterargument, though; I'm not just going to change my mind and fold without some serious convincing first.

So... where did I go wrong here?

~Neshomeh

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