Subject: Yes; no; I don't know.
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Posted on: 2011-09-04 05:08:00 UTC
I sort of wrote this post knowing that at some point I would have no idea how to articulate what I meant, and I seem to have hit that barrier here. I'll try-- bear with me.
I came to verbal blows with an ex-friend of my sister's, recently, over a handful of things. He once told her to, and I quote, "Get back in the kitchen!" And used to go on about girls, what they were good for, and so on. I was not sad when they had a falling out (his chauvinism pushed him to a point where none of his female friends were comfortable with him, and he eventually chose casual sex with almost-strangers over friendships), because going home had become either grinding my teeth silently over sexist remarks, or a continual hashing over Feminism 101. And both of those are exhausting things to do on a regular basis.
But here's why I bring it up-- every time I tried to explain to him why his 'jokes' weren't funny, I got the "But women are equal to men, so why does it matter? It's just a joke, it's not like I'm actually going to slap her," or whatever flimsy response. Or "But I'm only joking. Am I not even allowed to do that anymore?"
Jokes matter. Using a joke that reinforces harmful behavior is a problem. Using language and terms that reinforce harmful stereotypes is a problem. Intent is not magic. All those other things that are well on their way to becoming clichés.
Basically, my point is this. I... okay, I can't say I don't care what the critics think of the PPC. The most iconic critic on this debate around here, Boosette, is someone I look up to and respect; we have a mutual friend who I love dearly. Who also truly despises the word 'Mary Sue,' and with good reason. Both of them have good reason. Tamora Pierce has good reason. ...That wasn't the point. Let me try again.
Basically, my point is this. Critics aside, I'm thinking about the fangirls, the Suethors, the fourteen-year-olds who haven't seen this discussion or the many essays on both sides of the argument that sprang up around the last debate, dubbed (to my eternal chagrin) "The Boosette Incident." Imagine you've posted strong (in the strictest sense of the word-- I mean, literally. Strong with power, strong with beauty, etc. Not 'strong' in the literary sense.) female characters three times, and each time you've gotten a flood of reviews going "SUUUE ALERT OMG SOMEONE CALL THE PPC!" And then you post a fanfic with a Dunedan (I know there's an accent somewhere there) who does much the same thing, and no one says a thing. What conclusions could you draw from this? Female powerful characters = Bad. Male powerful characters = Good.
Now, we know that's not the truth, or the whole story. But from an outside perspective? I'm oversimplifying it, and not doing the argument justice at all. But do you get what I'm saying?
It's also, for the record, a big part of why I push for strong concrit instead of just sporking. I've never understood why mocking someone should take precedent over trying to help them improve. Yes, some authors don't know how to take criticism. But what about the ones who do? Why is our automatic reaction not to post a review going "Your story, to be honest, needs a lot of work. Your character doesn't seem realistic, s/he is undermining canon..." etc, but to come running back here and go "OH MY GOD GUYS LOOK AT HOW HORRIBLE AND STUPID THIS IS" every time?
I don't know. I think I've officially lost my train of thought (four paragraphs ago, possibly?) and am rambling.
TL;DR:
If we are not careful with how we use the term 'Mary Sue,' we are, if not intentionally, undermining female fantasy characters and reinforcing harmful gender roles. I know that we don't want to do that. I know there's no perfect solution. But I think we could stand to be a lot more careful with our words. We're writers; let's try to remember that, when... well, writing-- stories and reviews both.
--VM, who will now climb off her soapbox and go hide in a cave somewhere