Subject: No, let's be perfectly clear here:
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Posted on: 2016-11-15 09:11:00 UTC
This is an extreme example:
"Instead of high income taxes, let's think about universal wealth redistribution."
It works like this: 'here's an extreme thing we can all agree not to like (except Scapegrace and hS and Kaitlyn WHATEVS); the thing we're actually discussing is like it, but less so; therefore you can see why I don't like it.'
You didn't do that. I accept that you were trying to do that, but you didn't. You did something more like this:
"Instead of high-speed car racing, let's talk about stabbing people in the eyeballs."
Stabbing people in the eyeballs is not an extreme case of the same thing as racing. It's completely different - one is a dangerous activity people enjoy despite the risks, the other is grievous bodily harm.
Being gay - getting married as a gay person - doesn't hurt anybody. Even if you believe it's a vile sin, it only 'hurts' the gay people involved. Being in the KKK is not an 'extreme' equivalent - it's being part of a group that actively (per Data Junkie) promotes crime and (per history) lynching black people.
One of these things hurts other people. One does not. They are not comparable even in 'extreme examples'.
Here are some things that are actually partly analogous to 'not making wedding cakes for gays':
"I don't want to make a cake for that person with Down Syndrome (because they act weird and their face creeps me out."
"I don't want to make a cake for that blond/e couple (because blonde hair reminds me of Nazis)."
"I'm a traditionalist Mormon, and I don't want to make a cake for that black person (because dark skin is the mark of Cain)."
"I'm a Baptist, and I don't want to make a cake for that Mormon (because they say they're Christian but they're nooooooot)."
"I don't want to make a cake for that Christian-Hindu couple (because 2 Corinthians 6:14 and Deuteronomy 7:3 command that Christians shouldn't marry people of other faiths)."
"I don't want to make a cake for this guy to give to his girlfriend (because fornication is a sin)."
"I don't want to make a cake for that gay person (because my religion says it's sinful)."
None of these customers are hurting anyone. All of them are acting in accordance with their own culture and upbringing. Four of them have absolutely no choice in being what they are. You have no moral, ethical, or in most cases legal, right to refuse them because you don't like them.
I accept that you were trying to make an extreme example. However, what you actually did was directly compare 'being gay' and 'being racist'. Until you can accept how insulting (and frankly scary) that is, and apologise for what you actually said and for the lack of forethought that led to it, you're not going to get anywhere in this conversation.
You've shown repeatedly in the past that - unlike the vast majority of people on either side of the political spectrum - you're able to learn from people you disagree with and understand when your position is groundless and wrong. Please. Do that here.
hS