Subject: I mostly agree with Seafarer here.
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Posted on: 2017-03-18 03:31:00 UTC
Perhaps with a lessening on Tomash's ban, as due to the conversation with EvilAI, whether his actions were actually illegal or not is a bit of a grey area.
As to my actions, I would first like to say that, baring one post of Alleb's that I agreed with, I did not target July, nor did I intend to target July with anything that I said that day. I was there when it all... kicked off (admittedly it was around 4-5 in the morning for me and I hadn't gone to sleep yet so I wasn't sure what to expect upon waking up). As I now frequently do, I logged onto Discord on Thursday in the school library after a rather important meeting about my future on my course (not that it's that important, I just like putting all the details in (BTW it went well)), and I got on somewhere around 4pm (4:18pm is when I make my first post to be precise) and coming into the middle of the conversation, promptly forgot about the work I was meant to be doing and went to read up on everything that had happened (and then proceed to swear a lot at what had happened, silently of course (I was still in the library after all)).
Then at 4:21pm I make my first post, in which I'm generally talking about Ix's leaving post on the board, specifically expressing a wish to post something despite not really being around for much of what Ix was talking about apart from the Glarn incidents and I quote "but I know saying that to Ix will make it sound as if I was ignoring them, and I'm left in a really difficult place." I then also expressed interest in hearing SeaTurtle's side of the Brink incident, mostly because out of the three other people still in the PPC at that time who were involved with the incident, SeaTurtle is the one I trust, and think of as my friend, the most (No offence meant to Ekyl and Zingenmir).
After six or so minutes, I then make this post, in reference to the new rules that may or may not be introduced.
"Part of me wonders if it would be better for us to instead of keep fixing up the Constitution to scrap it and rebuild it from scratch, and then have some way of actually keeping people to it so that bullies are fittingly punished."
And I honestly mean it, and I still do believe that what I said could be a good solution. I was trying to have an actual discussion about whether our current Constitution really, truly works for cases of bullying, and whilst I will admit I didn't have a copy of the Constitution next to me, or open on my browser at all. I honestly think that we need to change it, at least in part, to make sure nothing like this (both the whole incident surround Ix, and the consequences of it and the whole mess (for I don't know a better way of putting it) that it has caused afterwards.
Then came my big mistake. I agreed with Alleb when they stated. "The image itself should probably be posted." We all know the image that is being talked about, and now coming back to it, I realize I should of said more than just "^". I should of said, as I believed it would have been understood at the time, that the proper consent would be given before the image was posted and, due to the fact I have never (and probably now will never) use Hangouts (or whatever it was), I did not realize said image would contain a picture of July and they're name, I believed it'd contain, much like on Discord some kind of profile picture and a username similar to the ones we use in the PPC. I was ignorant, and I should of said more than I did, I'll admit I'm guilty to that much.
A minute or two later I responded to Granz's post of:
"Do we include specific articles dealing with punishment in the Constitution, should we rewrite It? How specific do we get? How do we actually put it into practice? And seconding the posting of the image."
With:
"Yes, there should be articles in the Constitution about the punishment, so that those who think they'll be able to get away with bullying others will know exactly what will happen to them in turn."
With regards to my previous post saying about redoing the Constitution. I'll admit, reading that back I sound like a bit of a dick, it could come across as a bit hard (I generally am towards bullies, for reasons I mention later), but once again this was me trying to have a discussion about redoing the Constitution, this wasn't aimed towards anyone specifically, it was about honestly believing (at that time) that parts of the Constitution are flawed and need to be changed to help better prevent and punish bullies in the community. I then also follow up with
"We need to take a hard fast stance on bullies or else we might as well not take a stance at all."
Granz then asked a couple of questions that I didn't (and still don't) have a proper answer to. As far as I was aware, for this part of the conversation we were having a discussion about potentially redoing the Constitution itself, and whether that would actually work. I respond with my reasons for my stance on bullying.
"I was bullied for 11 years of my life because my teachers thought the best thing to do when an act of bullying was reported was to gather the two parties in a room and tell the bullies to, and I quote "Not do that again." And then send us on our ways." I'll admit, I'm not the most comfortable to post this on the internet at large, but I think it needs to be said to understand where I come from with regards to bullies (And for those who are interested, I'm currently 22, so yes, that is half my life I've been bullied. But once again, this (to me) merely justifies my stance towards bullies and basically nothing else).
In response to Khryssty's very fair questions of "What worries me is the degree of waffling this has revealed in the community. Will I really be safe here?"
I responded with: "You'll be safe, that is one thing I would always promise to uphold (and always do)" And it's true that I try and do that, and that I try and be firm but fair when I am called upon to settle disputes in the other corners of the internet that I hang out in, however rarely it happens these days. I realize that this could be read as "I want to rule the board/PPC with an iron fist." I don't, far from it. I am just saying that I try and make sure everyone feels safe whenever I can.
I make a couple of little comments before mentioning "Yeah, and also some people don't know about certain situations because they simply weren't there for them. So how can they comment on it if they don't know about it?" In response to (for me) the fact that in Ix's leaving post (I mean no offense here) I felt like they were blaming everyone in the PPC for either taking part in, or not standing by her during the three incidents that she had mentioned, I was trying to counter-claim by saying that, if one is not there, how can they be blamed for something, unless it explicitly happens because they are not there. I then continue on this tangent with "Yes you can read up on it after it has happened, but that doesn't help if a decision is needed then and there." before realizing it was indeed a tangent and deciding to shelve it away for later.
I make some comment about needing groundwork before we are able to continue, in which I was talking about if we were to redo things to do with how we handle bullying, nothing more or less. Then I make my other point that I think still applies (and shows that even on 5 hours sleep and with some stressful things happening earlier in the day I can still make up intelligent comments).
"We need to see past oldbie, middlebie, whatever. Just because they've been around a while doesn't mean they can't be held responsible for what they've done. If hS did something really rude and wrong I'd want him to be held accountable for it (for example)."
hS was just an example, it wasn't meant to be anything related to Scape's comments, it was merely because hS was the oldest-bie I could think of whose name (or shortened version thereof) I could spell relatively quickly. But it is a good point, sure respect your elders, but also remember that elders aren't always right, and that just because you've been here longer than someone else doesn't make you more right, or more in the right than someone who hasn't been here as long. I mean look at me, I count as an oldbie (somehow), and yet in some ways still feel like I should be treated as more of a middlebie (and even newbie in some cases) than an oldbie. But that's just me I guess.
It was at this point I needed to go off to my lecture (Yay, deriving the Black Scholes formula). I then returned somewhere around 6:20pm (ish) and kinda lurked on Discord (as well as reading what had been said in my absence) by which point it'd mostly died down.
So yeah, that's my side of things (in one giant post that I feel really sorry for anyone who has just read through it all. I'm aware the grammar is probably atrocious, I'm sorry). I'm not going to try and say I was definitely in the right, or definitely in the wrong. For the most part I was trying to have a discussion about how to better the PPC and the Constitution to prepare against something like this happening again.
If that is wrong, ban me, but I refuse to just accept being nominated for a ban because I felt that this had pointed some glaring holes in our community that NEED to be fixed and thought I would say something about it. And whilst I am strongly tempted to nominate Desdendelle for a ban as well, I refuse to, partially because I feel like falling to that level is inherently wrong, and SHOULD NOT BE DONE. And also because I recognize his point of view, and likewise July's POV, I may not respect it, I may not like it, but I will defend to the death their right to say it.
Storme Hawk
Who would have posted this in half the time if their 'o' key worked more than half the time.