Subject: Yes, but...
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Posted on: 2017-03-17 23:54:00 UTC
Their actions are in line with one we all know and love
Subject: Yes, but...
Author:
Posted on: 2017-03-17 23:54:00 UTC
Their actions are in line with one we all know and love
So, what are we bloody going to do? Iximaz's post needs a response. I'll freely admit, I have no solution. Haven't had time to think of any. What I do know is that, as a community, our response to bullying and accusations of bullying could, at the very least, do with some examination.
The Discord chat has been buzzing for the past... three hours, I believe. We agreed that we should move to the Board, so everyone can be a part of this discussion.
Let me briefly outline what the chat has been talking about. In general, many feel that this was a personal failure, as well as a failure on the part of the community. Our failure to act was, in Iximaz's eyes, a large part of the problem. Indeed, most of it.
Furthermore, several people think that there's an error in how we deal with bullying and accusations of bullying. Opinions vary: I feel more comfortable leaving that to individuals to put into their own words.
Lastly, many people in the Discord chat believe that we need a better response when bullying has been confirmed or is suspected. JulyFlame, several people--not all--think that your behavior is particularly troubling. This is one of the major reasons this post has been made; so that we are not talking without your input on what's happened. Again, I will leave the particulars of other people's opinions to their own enunciation.
Consider this post a summary of the feelings of much of the Discord chat (Iximaz was often in the chat, and talked about these things) and a springboard for further discussion and action. My own thoughts will be forthcoming, once I feel they're in good order.
Let's discuss this like rational human beings.
-Alleb
Part of this site’s appeal to me is that the community cares for itself, and that the Nameless Admin is nameless because somebody must hold the keys, but they don’t actually want the authority. Having mods, and elections, and impeachments for mods who don’t do their jobs wouldn’t really solve any problems, it would just insert a new layer. We would still all need to work on making this the place we want it to be.
I’m not around as often as I would like to be, and I can’t react to situations I’m not aware of, but I’m personally guilty of not caring enough in at least one case, so I’m not exempt from having to work on that. Thus, here’s a promise: I solemnly swear that I will not act rashly, but that I also will not just sit around shaking my head and waiting for people I’m looking up to, when it’s up to me to call somebody out or – which may more probably be the case – dissolve a mutual misunderstanding.
This may come off as being too forgiving again, but after reading up, I honestly can’t see any bad intentions in this whole mess. Some of us overreacted and were carried away on Discord, and some of us may now be overreacting to this overreaction. Yes, Tomash screwed up big time, but amends have already been made and I trust that what else might be possible to do will be done soon, and there’s also this second chance thing in the Constitution. What could actually be accomplished by banning Tomash – or anybody else – other than telling them that we perform a symbolic act just so they know that they have been punished? I think our collective opinion has been made clear enough, everybody involved in the unintentional witch hunt is already repenting, and banning is far too serious to be used in a symbolic act. Sometimes, banning is necessary to get rid of unbearable nuisances, and if it is not made permanent, this just expresses hope that the person concerned doesn’t need an infinite amount of time to reform. This is certainly not applicable here.
Now, muting people on Discord is something I can get behind. If they are prone to talking before thinking things through, and have shown that they can’t be trusted to behave in an online chat, let them stay silent for a while. If we need to hand out punishments, this is what we should vote about.
HG
It seems like we can hardly go two weeks without some big conflagration like this, and every time it goes the same way. People are hurt, maybe someone gets thrown out, it gets abruptly dropped as if nothing ever happened and if people start talking about improving things in the community so it's less likely drama gets so out of hand, it's "No, let's keep everything the same just for the sake of everything being the same."
I agree that we do need to work together to make the PPC a good place and all that, my concern is we often don't.
What incidents, exactly, does "No, let's keep everything the same just for the sake of everything being the same" refer to?
'Cause the last I checked, we've revised the Permission system several times and revised the Constitution several times in response to problems, not to mention gradual shifts in preferences and attitudes toward various things over time, in-universe and out.
I suspect you're talking solely about the fact that we're still using this Board, which you are on record as more or less hating, in which case you're being rather disingenuous with that accusation.
~Neshomeh
I seemed to remember a lot of discussions about things like, yes, changing the board, but also moderator positions, Permission, Constitution stuff etc. I thought I remembered a lot of opposition to changing things in general. If I misrecall, sorry. When I'm free, I'll do some research on this.
It's true that you haven't been here for a while—though, wait, weren't you heavily involved with setting up the Permission prompts system in the first place? That was kind of a big deal.
But that said, maybe try to avoid vague casting of aspersions when you haven't really been around for a while?
Actually, we should all try to avoid vague casting of aspersions in general.
~Neshomeh
That said, this was at least a couple years ago, wasn't it? I've had a lot going on in my life.
... it was a reference to my post on moderators. If so, I don't think it's a fair characterisation of what I said, but I can see how it could be read that way.
hS
In class, have shedload of work to do. Update on this later.
First off, I have not been hiding from this issue. I've just been at a friend's house for the past two days. I was very busy there, and I wouldn't have been able to give this discussion a thoughtful response.
I apologize to July for not trying to stop the screenshot from being posted. I was only thinking of it in terms of evidence, and not how it would be an invasion of privacy. This is a very serious deal. I'm very, very, sorry, July. I should've known better. Since I don't even know you at all, I shouldn't have made any comments on the matter.
I apologize to the Discord chat for not helping. I have literally only been part of the PPC for 34 days; add that to the fact that I just vomit out words without thinking when I'm feeling emotional, and you have someone who really should not be part of such an important discussion. In fact, I was pretty aggravating.
I apologize to Ix for being part of this discussion. I don't know enough about Ix, about the Brink incident, about the Glarn incident, about mental health, or really any part of this at all! For crying out loud! Why on earth did I think I could help! So yeah, I feel really stupid. Sorry, Ix, I shouldn't have made myself part of something so important and emotional with so little information.
Of course, the discussion on the Discord is different from the one on the Board. Everyone is supposed to be part of the Board discussion (at least, that's what I'm gathering). But I could have stayed out of the Discord one.
On the subject of bans:
I think Tomash should get a month-long ban at the most. I do think his actions were serious. However, they were meant to help, and that does matter.
Some people have called for Aegis's ban. That's just dumb. He's Ix's boyfriend! I would be worried if he didn't have strong feelings about this! It's only right for him to be agitated about their welfare. Yes, it would have helped for him to take a step back. But that goes for literally everyone on Discord who participated in this fiasco.
For everyone else on the Discord (everyone else participating, that is), I just have to say that we all let things get really out of hand. We should be embarrassed. Though I don't think any bans are in order. Except for one, and that one would be mine. Looking back on it, I realize I acted irresponsibly. As a person with very little information, I shouldn't have tried to be part of the initial argument on Discord. I may be overreacting, but I feel very ashamed of myself, and I think a temporary ban is just.
Lastly, I think mods are a very good idea. I do like the thought of a community where everyone can be responsible. We cannot do that. We clearly need some people who can propose votes, and announce the final decision. For instance, right now there are a million different ideas floating around the Board about what to do. Consequently, no one knows what to do. We're just milling around, voting on this or that idea, and it all comes down to nothing happening.
Sorry if that was slightly incoherent. I'm tired, ashamed of myself, and frustrated with this mess.
I think you're being too hard on yourself there. There's no rule that says newbies have to stay out of the serious stuff, and in fact, your lack of previous involvement might have in many circumstances been a good thing, because you wouldn't have been coming into the discussion with some preconceived notions about various people. And from what I can tell in the logs, you weren't running around calling for bans or anything like that. You mostly confined yourself to summaries of what was being discussed and general proposals for reform.
That said, if you want to ban yourself (from the Discord or the PPC) for a while in penance, I can't possibly object. Your call.
I was not aware of most of the matters with Ixi save for the GlarnBoudin incident, and my refusal to help was due to the fact that I didn't want to risk my friendship with him elsewhere, plus my busy life meant I didn't know about it until relatively late into the incident. I'm sorry that I did not jump in sooner, and that I didn't do enough to help resolve the matter.
As for today, I could've avoided being involved with what little information I had, but I jumped in regardless because I had a lot of feelings on the matter that I felt I had to express. Venting is fine and all, but it does nothing without taking actions, and I should've been stronger with mine. More importantly, I should've stopped the doxxing at the source and called out the ones who were calling for it to be brought up immediately and publicly. July, I am so sorry that I didn't do more to put a stop to this matter, and also that I didn't nip it in the bud no matter how much effort I put into halting it as it was. I talked to the wrong person, I tried to solve the wrong issue. Had I known the true extent of what was happening I could've done both of these differently and made more of a difference in the aftermath of this matter. And for that, July, I am truly sorry.
Regarding bans, I agree that Tomash doesn't deserve a six-month ban, let alone a year-long ban, because he was genuinely trying to help and feels guilty over his actions. That doesn't change the fact that they were serious, but I think two months would be ideal so that he could take the time off and pull himself together. Nobody else deserves to be banned, though, because I've stated more than once that such actions solve nothing and drive people away from this community. Is that what we want people to see the first time they come across the Board?
Jay- Awesomeness Central, you're still relatively new, and getting a feel for the community; I think what happened was that you came in close to a very bad time and didn't know better. I don't blame you for feeling guilty - I've done some of the same things as you have in the past - but I can also say that outright leaving the community and its problems won't solve anything, and this is coming from someone who seriously thought at one point that if it weren't for his unfinished story plots, he'd actually consider it. I too am ashamed of what's happened, but that doesn't mean I can't learn from it, and the same goes to you. I hope you and everyone else can learn from their mistakes and that we can be better prepared for future incidents of this caliber should they arise (I personally pray that they don't but knowing the Internet, and human society, I don't think any promises can be made about it).
I must also state that both you and hS have valid points. Mods are indeed a good idea to keep people in line, but at the same time this is a community where everyone is expected to uphold the Constitution. Higher-ups aren't necessarily required for the latter, but we must also be careful about the former. To reference an Aesop fable, we don't want a King Log who can't effectively manage the pond, nor do we want a King Stork who abuses their power and picks on the frogs he lords over. In light of this, however, there's a bit of a dilemma in that we could be content with our lot and try to sort through the sheer amount of suggestions about how to better handle the community as a group, or we could try to find the most reasonable authority figures and operate based on at least a small degree of subjectivity. I don't know if there's any way we can resolve all of this that doesn't have at least some disadvantages, but at the very least, we should try to minimize potential problems when selecting mods, if we do, and the rest of us should still continue working to uphold the community standards going forward.
Now that two of us are resigned and the others are either asleep at peak hours or not around often, we need more mods, especially now that we have a troll in the chatroom that can't be kicked in the meantime.
I'd like to nominate Maslab and Delta Juliette as replacements since they have proven to be reliable in the past.
They've proven they're responsible, level-headed, and exactly the right amount of interfering. They also have the requisite amount of experience. I trust them.
Not sure this really means all that much coming from me, but Maslab and Delta Juliette are rational individuals as far as I can see. So, assuming I get one and they accept, consider my vote cast for them.
I agree with voting for them for the same reasons Aegis listed. I freely admit that I don't know either of them very well, but they seem like good, steady, people from what I've seen of them.
I call for the 1 to 6 month ban of Tomash, with length determined as per boarder's decision.
I call for the involved boarders, particularly those mentioned in PoorCynic's revision, for an express written apology to July for the action of Witch Hunting. This is especially applies to Aegis, Alleb, Ekyl, Granz, and Khrstty, for reasons mentioned in PC's post
Let's keep this discussion rational.
I feel that Tomash's doxxing of July was outside the remit of the Constitution. If someone commits a potentially endangering act, we are under no obligation to let them say 'sorry, mistake, won't happen again'.
But that doesn't mean we can't say that. I have spoken with July, and she doesn't feel that it's necessary for Tomash to be banned. Therefore, I vote that Tomash not be banned.
Instead, I propose that he and everyone else involved consider this thread as an emphatic explanation under Article Seven that their behaviour was wrong. I think most of the people from the chat have admitted this by now anyway, and there are several apologies floating around.
Therefore, for everyone who is a first-time offender, they should be requested to make an apology, and commit themselves to not repeating their mistakes. Then they should be allowed to move on. That's what our Constitution allows for, and I happen to think that it's a very fair way to deal with people who have acted badly once.
hS
First, on Tomash: I've thought it over, I've talked it out, and I've come to the conclusion that permanently banning Tomash does not fix anything and would not make our community better. I believe he understands why and how what he did was wrong, has done all he can to undo the damage, and will make every effort to avoid the same mistakes in the future. In addition, he was in good standing prior to this. However, a serious infraction merits a serious response, so a temporary ban may still be in order. Perhaps three months.
Second, on everyone else named in PC's revision: an apology is certainly required, not just to July, but to Iximaz, too, for my money. It's absurd how you've allowed your feelings about her to twist you into knots, and it's unfair to make her responsible for that by continuing to excuse yourselves on the basis that you were worried about her. There are lots of better things you could have done with your feelings. No one needs the burden of their friends' reactivity stirring up unwanted trouble on their behalf—and she's said repeatedly that she does not want to be the cause of drama.
However, allow me to propose an alternative to mass banning that still actually penalizes the bad behavior: if possible, lock the Discord temporarily. No one is allowed in for three months, minimum. You abused the privilege of a live chatroom by letting things get out of hand in there, so you all can slum it in forum time with the rest of us for a while. Then, when you go back, perhaps you'll appreciate it and respect it more.
I know some of you will protest that you weren't involved in this fracas, so you shouldn't lose the privilege. Maybe that's true, but on the other hand, maybe a temporary personal sacrifice is a small price to pay for justice and a healthier Discord in the future. Think about it before you object.
~Neshomeh
Here's what I propose: Banning the people involved in the witch-hunt from the Discord for at least 1-3 months. This way, the people who weren't involved (like, say, Delta Juliette, Cat On The Keyboard, that one complete twerp called, er, Space Grape? Something like that...) aren't unfairly penalized for the actions of a few that they were, to pull an example completely out of nowhere, curled up under a duvet unable to stop shaking or crying because they were terrified their best friend didn't want them around any more. It also serves as a punishment directly related to their actions; if they can't be trusted to use an IRC channel properly and with respect for others, then they don't get to do so any more. I think that's fairer than, if you'll forgive the obligatory and slightly worn-out fandom reference, turning the Discord into a statue for three months.
Now it's my apology time.
I'm not a well person. I get extraordinarily defensive when I feel that my friends are being attacked. That's no excuse for what I've been saying to multiple people on the Board and Discord, none of whom deserved it. I'm sorry. I'm sorry I got so angry, and I'm sorry I didn't keep that anger under control. I should know better by now, but it doesn't appear that I do.
Given how I've comported myself recently, in multiple threads on the Board, I completely understand if people want to push for my being formally punished in some manner. All I want is to be a credit to this community, the community that gave me second, third, seventh, twenty-fifth chances, that picked me up and dusted me off when I fell off the anger wagon time and time again.
I have failed you.
Most of all, I've failed Ix.
By letting my anger rule me I have made things worse for them and I, I can't... I can't begin to express just how much of a stain upon the surface of the world that makes me feel. You're my best friend and I have let you down and forced you to defend me for... basically as long as we've been friends. I have let you down so, so often.
I'm sorry.
I want to fix it.
I don't know how.
I'm scared to find out.
The Discord ban sounds just like right. So, my idea would be:
- A medium term "global" ban for Tomash (3-6 months). One year bans are usually reserved for those who don't come to their senses and apologize, while Tomash did - but, at the same time, apologizing should not be a "get-out-of-jail" card when very serious offenses are made.
- A short-medium Discord ban as per Scape's idea (1-3 months), but coupled with a short Board ban as well (2 weeks - 1 month?), with the same reasoning as above.
Mind you, this is not meant in constrast to the second chance granted by the the Constitution, but as a matter of consequences: One must accept the consequences of their own mistakes, as mistakes can have long-lasting consequences on other people.
July was mass-backstabbed. Just like the wounds to her soul will take time to heal, I believe everyone involved needs to take some time off the Board to reflect deeply on what happened.
At least, to me. If I'd been able to just restrain myself, none of this would be happening and things would still be fine. I'm at as much fault as anyone here.
Short of banning everyone from the Discord, I don't think it's possible to actually lock it, and looking at how out-of-hand things got on the Board, both now and in the past, I don't think getting rid of the chatroom would have made much of a difference.
Everybody has to own their actions, not just you. If you don't think you've been wronged in the ways I've described, that's one thing, but taking all the blame yourself is another, and I for one won't stand for it.
On that note, I'll put my money where my mouth is and apologize for participating in those late-night sessions the times I did. Even though I felt it was wrong, I went along with it and implicitly said it was okay when that's not what I really believe. I should have expressed my feelings more clearly, and I should have left. I'm sorry for not behaving more responsibly as someone who should ostensibly know better.
On the Discord... well, darn. But just to clarify, I'm not suggesting getting rid of it forever, and I know things can and do get out of hand here, too. But at least when they go wrong here, everyone can see it. I'm searching for the middle ground between banning and nothing that some people were wishing for.
~Neshomeh
Before, the meds just made me loopy. They were different meds from the ones that made me, well. Do that; the psychiatrist was trying me on new meds that gave me awful mood swings (seriously, I had to take a few days off work because the withdrawal made things worse and I really don't want to throw a mic stand at my boss). The voice chat from before wasn't really different from laughing at the silly stuff your friends do while tipsy. I'll admit to being amused at some of the stuff I came up with and it doesn't really bother me. What happened the other night was entirely my fault, though, even more so because I acknowledged I wasn't feeling myself and thought it would still be a good idea to chat. They were different situations; I don't think you need to apologize for that.
Re the Discord 'pause' for lack of a better word, yeah, that's a good point. The only question now is if enough people would actually vote regarding that issue when there's like sixteen different votes vying for attention at the moment.
That would mean they could observe the server, but would be unable to actually participate in discussions on it.
Many people feel that I should be banned from the PPC, either permanently or temporarily, because I posted July's real name and face in the Discord chat on Thursday. I again acknowledge that what I did was completely unacceptable, and I cannot overstate my regret that I invaded another PPCer's privacy in such a drastic way.
I acknowledge that there was a remote possibility that what I did could have posed a threat to July's life, and I am horrified that I contributed to the possibility of that. I do, however, feel that, given the rather limited distribution of the screenshot (at most, say 30 people, none of whom I believe would want July killed, could have seen it before it was deleted, and I expect that the number of people who actually saw the information that didn't already know it is much smaller), several people have rather overstated an extremely improbable outcome.
I would like to attempt to describe what I was (or, more importantly, wasn't) thinking when I posted that screenshot. At that time, the chat was considering Iximaz's allegations. I wanted to provide a piece of evidence that would help the community decide whether or not Iximaz was right. I had been discussing that screenshot privately for several days, and, in my mind, it was the "conversation between July and Iximaz". In my emotional disarray at Iximaz's possible death (which was still entirely possible at the time) and how I might have helped cause it, I didn't think through what I was posting. I forgot that screenshot contained July's real name. Not paying attention to that was a terrible mistake, and I yet again apologize to JulyFlame for what I did. It shouldn't have happened.
Now, to those of you calling for a permanent ban, I would like to request my Article 7 second chance. I have stopped (or, in this case, attempted to mitigate the damage). I have apologized. I have come to a more complete realization of what I did. I would like to make amends. I beg all of you to allow me to do so instead of driving me out forevermore!
I don't know what form the amends will take. That is for you, the community, to decide. There need to be consequences for what I did. A common proposal has been a temporary ban from the Discord or the entire PPC community for some length of time. I can't say that wouldn't be an appropriate thing for me to do.
I'm a self-imposed ban (one that, in future debates, could be counted as a ban) from at least the chat if not the whole PPC so I can reflect on my actions in this entire mess. Could y'all please suggest an term? I can't seem to decide what would be a fitting one.
Additionally, several people have reminded us that a permanent ban has, in the past, been reserved for those who are so detrimental to the continued healthy working of the community that their presence will tear the place apart. They haven't been, and I understand, weren't meant to be, a penalty for a first offense by a PPCer who was otherwise in good standing. Is my mistake so terrible a sin that I should be cast out forever? Am I so beyond redemption that I can't be allowed here? Please tell me if you think that, I would like to know where I stand.
There are a few additional things I'd like to point out.
First, I would like to note that this is a much harsher range of proposed responses than were proposed when Matt Cipher harassed July about returning to the Discord. In that case, Matt apologized and resigned his power over the Discord server. To my knowledge, no one called for Matt to be banned. Could we, while voting on this, clarify if the reason for this is that my conduct was so much worse than Matt's or if it's because we have decided to get tougher on wrongdoers? I think answering that question will help the PPC make these decisions in the future.
Secondly, during this thread, there's been many mentions of witch-hunting and mob mentality. I would like to raise the possibility that many of the people involved in the doxxing, potentially including myself, are being unintentionally targeted by an angry mob. I think it's possible that the community, or some parts of if, want something, anything to be done, and my actions and the actions of others in the Discord have made us easy targets for collective anger. That's not saying I don't deserve to be punished for this, but could we all please take a moment to make sure I'm being punished with a clear collective head?
I would also like to ask that, since this is now a community vote, someone start making posts with tallies and such to make it easier to keep track of the status of the vote.
- Tomash
This thread has gotten so wild I genuinely don't know where else to lay out my thoughts.
So, first thought, Tomash. I don't think he needs to be permabanned. Doxxing someone is absolutely a serious offense, but it's also (so far as I know) his first in about six years of spotless membership. He has acknowledged it was wrong, apologized repeatedly and profusely for it, and resolved to make amends in whatever way he can. In addition to which, his offense was, or at least seemed to me, a mistake made in dire circumstances with the genuine intention of providing people ait all facts available, rather than a malicious attack or deliberate violation of the rules or common decency. That, to me, is not a situation that merits a permaban.
Some form of consequence is necessary, certainly, but permabans are not the tool for this job. I strongly believe that they should be reserved for cases where there is a repeated or drastic negative consequence to someone's continued presence. I do not see that as the case with Tomash, or anyone else involved in this matter. If people want to discuss a temp ban, I'll leave them to it. I still don't think it's the best course, and I'll vote as such, but I'm only one member.
Now as to the secondary ban proposals, I strongly oppose banning any of the people mentioned in PC and Des' lists, for any length of time. Witchhunting members of the community is very much Not Cool, but neither is mass banning members on first offenses without first giving due consideration to less drastic courses. Even temporary bans are significant, especially in the case of Khryssty, who's only been here about a month, if I recall correctly.
I would also like to voice my concern over the frequency of bans being suggested. Many of the candidates suggested have never had problems before, and are now being considered for bans as long as twelve months, without, as far as I have seen, even any significant effort being made to so much as talk to them about it. This deeply troubles me. I know we want to make it clear that witchhunting/bullying and such things are not tolerated here, but I worry that if we start looking at problems as "does this merit a ban?" rather than "what can we do to resolve this?" we won't look as hard for more constructive solutions. When all you have is a hammer, and all that. Perhaps I'm just being paranoid, but I would be much reassured if we resolved to at the bare minimum tackle each case individually. This name listing in ban proposals does not sit well with me.
All that aside, though, there is something I would like us all to keep in mind as this discussion goes on, particularly in light of the controversial tone it may take; we all try to be friends (or at least pleasant acquaintances) here. We don't always succeed, but that's the goal, so while this is a crisis, try to remember that we're all doing what we think is best for the community and for each other.
In that same vein, I would like to thank everyone who has posted so far for participating in this discussion. This is rough stuff, easy to want to shy away from, particularly if you're not personally involved. It's gratifying to see everyone weighing in.
I especially want to thank Neshomeh, Seafarer, and Storme Hawk for taking the time to so thoroughly and articulately lay out their thoughts on this. I won't deny I was more than a little fired up when I first started going through this thread, but seeing their comments helped me remember to check my temper before posting.
Finally, if we do end up calling for a vote—something I would very much prefer to avoid, for the record—I vote no action taken.
-Badger
P.S.
I apologize for the no doubt error-ridden state of this post. It's taken the better part of the day to catch up on all this and to organize my thoughts on it. Fatigue is not kind to my mental spellchecker.
Firstly, the difference between your and Matt's conduct.
Matt's harassment of July caused no irrevocable damage. When he saw the error of his ways, he was able to make amends for the totality of his actions - there was no risk of permanent physical or mental harm to July.
You, on the other hand, posted private information about her in a public place. This potentially placed her at risk of actual, physical harm. This difference, I think, justifies calling for your ban while allowing Matt to remain.
However, I believe that the people calling for you to be permanently banned are taking things too far. You have been an upstanding member of the community in every post of yours that I've seen, and I see no reason for you to be thrown under the bus for a first offence.
Furthermore, upon having the implications of your behaviour pointed out to you, you immediately recognised that you had done wrong and did everything in your power to make amends for it. By the Constitution, you should be given a second chance, which I think some people here have overlooked.
Because of the severity of what you did, though, I feel your second chance has to come after a period of banning from the PPC as a whole. There is a risk - however small - that your actions may lead/have led to JulyFlame suffering severe harm.
I hope that this sufficiently explains my perspective on your situation (and hopefully some of the people calling for permanent bans read this and come to their senses).
(I'm not sure whether voting is meant to go here, but I'll say it just in case: I vote for a six month ban of Tomash. I also call upon everyone involved in the Discord debacle to apologise to anyone hurt by their conduct.)
A six month ban for Tomash and resignation of Discord modship. No ban for anyone else.
So, I have seen this idea pitched around a few times in the threads below and in Discord Logs. I'll post this here, since I have been considering it for a while.
I think we need to redo the entire Constitution from the ground up. My biggest issue regarding the Constitution is the humor inserted into it. Excerpted below:
1. "This webpage will self-destruct in thirty seconds.
*Hides; several hours pass*
Never mind, then...
*Comes out of hiding*
BOOM!"
2. (And all that other medieval mumbo-jumbo those town criers say. Forsooth verily!)
3. 6. All discovered mimes will be thrown into a pit, which may or may not be filled with various objects such as scorpions upon their availability.
6.5. There will be no clemency for these mimes until they learn the words.
4. There is no Article 19.
5. "Do not meddle in the affairs of assassins! They are heavily armed and quick to anger. And not noticeably subtle."
While I understand these are all quintessentially PPC, I am a firm believer that the rules that govern the community should not be played for laughs at any point. It can come across as saying Oh we really aren't all that serious here. This is a problem. I think the rules should be changed to reflect the fact that they are indeed serious business. I also think that we should streamline and simplify the current iteration as well. We essentially hold a PPC Constitutional Convention. We can trim the fat from the current Constitution, put in new rules that address events that we did not have before, and ensure that it is the best it can be.
Mainly because you can't dictate that people know how to handle themselves and others when someone is in crisis. "Behave like someone who's been taught to manage this incredibly difficult situation, OR ELSE!" Come on, if you want to be serious, be serious.
Also because, no matter how many times you rewrite the rules, it still falls to each individual to understand and uphold them. If people don't understand that the Constitution calls for decency, respect, and socially responsible conduct now, they won't after yet another re-write, either.
Also because we just did a re-write to address the subject of bullying and harassment and to streamline the articles. Not enough people pitched in to ratify it. Some claimed they didn't feel qualified to comment; most didn't say anything at all. The discussion was put aside for later on the grounds that the few people who were involved were burned out. If you were around then and could have stepped up but chose not to, you have no right to complain now.
~Neshomeh
Are you suggesting that because some chose not to speak up at one point on a single issue they are then henceforth banned from ever addressing that issue again in the future?
I am also not suggesting something so nonsensical as you think I am suggesting. I think that the amount of humor inserted may make some people not take all the rules seriously. At no point did I ever suggest that the rules should be "Behave like someone who's been taught to manage this incredibly difficult situation. OR ELSE!" Those were never my words.
I am merely suggesting something that looks like a real websites terms/conditions/rules/etc. And that gets to another point that has been addressed previously and I am now seconding that idea. I think we need some kind of formal moderation system. Because let's face it, if you leave it up to the individual, it is an exercise in futility.
Also again? No right to complain now? If you think that's what this is, then fine. Consider this me reoppening that discussion then.
You're right, I shouldn't put words in your mouth, and no, I'm not saying that silent once is silent forever.
My logic train goes something like this:
As you've noted, the idea of revising the Constitution (possibly from scratch) has come up here and in Discord, the idea being to put it in the rules that bullying behavior is not acceptable. Well, we already did that, and I find most of the names involved in the current discussion missing from that conversation. That's frustrating. The Board had a shot then at getting what they say they want now, but they apparently didn't take it seriously at the time. I don't see that it makes any sense to blame a failing of the rules for this situation when the rules would be there right now if more people had said unequivocally "Yes, we want this set in stone, please make it so" when it was under discussion before. That's what I mean when I say they have no right to complain about the Constitution. A document cannot be blamed for a failure on the part of the people responsible for creating and upholding it.
To explain the OR ELSE bit: What I see as a major contributing factor to this fracas is a serious lack of understanding of how to handle mental illness. I've attempted to explained this in my various posts. Therefore, in my head, any new rules meant to prevent a situation like this from arising again would have to address that facet of it, which I don't think would be appropriate or effective. That's where the hyperbole came from. I'm sorry for skipping the context.
~Neshomeh
I propose to the community that the following actions be taken:
1) That Tomash be permanently banned from the PPC for sharing someone else's guarded information without their knowledge or consent. While it was could be interpreted as a negligent act more than a strictly malevolent one, the fact still stands that it was a gross violation of confidentiality and trust. Plus, as Neshomeh mentioned here, July is an actively serving member of the United States military. This action thus has the genuine potentiality to threaten her life. An appropriate response must be made.
2) That the following indivduals—Alleb, Granz, and Khrssty—be banned from the PPC for a period no less than a year. Their voices seem to have been the main driving force behind this witch hunt. And yes, it was a witch hunt, despite what some of you have repeatedly protested. To say otherwise is to be deliberately blind to something very obvious.
3) That Aegis and Ekyl be banned from the PPC for a period no less than four months. Aegis appears to be the major force behind pushing for the screenshot to be pushed to the board. He has also exacerbated the situation through his actions in Discord and muddied events due to his recent postings on the Board. His behavior in the logs suggests that he had already judged July as being guilty. Ekyl, on the other hand, seems to have been a regularly present voice, poking along the chat with comments such as "And let's not make it out like July is some angel who's never wronged anybody ever" or "But these feelings have existed for a long time among many people". An agitator, if you will.
4) That the remaining PPCers who were privy to this incident but did nothing to stop it make an official public apology to July. That includes Desdendelle, Akrinor, Storme Hawk, Matt Cypher, SkarmorySilver, Jay - Awesomeness Central, and Hardric. If the PPC had some form of official censure between that and ban, I would have asked for it, but that's how things go.
I have no doubt that this proposal will be heavily debated. I welcome your input and hope that we can come together on some sort of agreement.
PoorCynic
First: I am sorry that I didn't say anything during the incident at all. Not when the screenshot went up, not when the witch-hunt was starting before then, and not even the moment I noticed Iximaz had left.
There is no excuse for my lack of a response to each and every one of these.
I am sorry I didn't immediately respond to the doxxing.
I am sorry I didn't say anything during the extended witch-hunt. At the time, I thought I was trying to gather information and context about the situation while (obviously) worrying about Iximaz; in retrospect, my being passive was a terrible choice to make.
Finally, to Iximaz: I am sorry for not recognizing harassment by Glarn. I am sorry for not recognizing any moves you've made in the past to try and bring bullying here to light and to discuss and act on it in a timely manner. I am sorry for not learning about what harassment looks like online or how people react to being bullied. I intend to fix that as soon as possible.
Look, permanently banning someone is not gonna do the trick. And let me say that many, many, people who serve in the military have their faces and names revealed. That is all.
Just because something happens often, does not mean it okay or somehow not bad. And while I am not certain that a permanent ban is both a) the right decision or b) going to solve this issue going forward, I for one believe that we, as a community need to send a strong message that this kind of behavior is not going to be tolerated.
And before people go, "Oh he apologized" that does not make it better or undo the damage. At best it would count as a mitigating factor.
Perfectly happy to oblige. Thanks for the invitation.
1) I more than agree that Tomash was in the wrong for sharing that information. I more than agree that he ought to be punished. But not only has he already explained why he did the things he did and where he was coming from, he has deleted every copy he had of what was shared (last I heard, the only copy left around was in Ix's possession, but that might be outdated news now). I have also gathered that this was his first time doing things like this. A perma-ban? I don't think that's right. Several months - let's say six to be on the generous side - should be a sufficient show of not-letting-you-in.
2) A year's ban for that? No. That's still too much. I'm not going to say they should go unpunished - they were undeniably exacerbating the situation, from what I've gathered - but a year is way too long. It's long enough that there would almost be no point in coming back after the sentence was done. Two or three months is still more than I'd really like to give, but I'm trying to be impartial here.
3) I really don't have too many problems with Ekyl's period - but that's because he has admitted that he doesn't want an end to this mess. So I'm being a little less objective than I could be on that front.
But for Aegis? Heck no. In my opinion, he doesn't need a ban at all - he was worried for his not-yet-engaged-to-person. But if he were banned at all, a week or two would be fine.
4) An apology is fine.
I mentioned that we should, in fact, censor the information to protect July's privacy. I also specifically requested July's contact information so that I could get in touch with her obtain both her side of the story and her consent in posting the screenshot (and even that only in the event it became relevant). I wasn't even going to post it if she didn't give me permission.
I wasn't advocating plastering July's name and face all over the Board. I wasn't advocating anything but looking further into this mess by getting July's side of the story. I'm no longer advocating even that, as it's obvious to me, as explained by Neshomeh and Kaitlyn, that doing so would further no one's ends.
I wanted her opinion on all of this. The punishment for that, I'll happily accept.
My own, if voted up, I will accept without objection. Heck, if I get a vote in this, I vote for my own. I'm not exactly a constructive influence at the best of times, and, regardless of what I think of any individual person, I can't say what I think of the community as a whole.
For the others, however, I think you're going too far. Tomash, particularly, does not deserve a permanent ban for a single mistake. To be clear, this is in light of the fact that, as far as I know, every copy of the screenshot in question has been deleted. Let us say that the screenshot was available for forty-eight hours, even though I believe it was likely more of a twenty-four hour matter. Assuming that we at least suppose PPC members are not secretly assassins for the Kremlin, that means there is a forty-eight hour window in which a hostile entity could have accessed the Board or Discord and found July's identity. For this small, accidental window created with the sole intention of bringing context to the general Discord, you propose a permanent removal. Whether there should be a temporary ban, I'll let others work out.
On the others? Firstly, a year-long ban effectively is a permanent ban. Expecting most people to come back after a year of absence is ridiculous. Such a period of exile for essentially seeing some kind of problem and wanting to move against it while acknowledging that in order to do so, they would have to take it to the Board, which I would like to remind you, they did, and I would also note that if they hadn't done so, it's very possible you wouldn't even know this had happened. For Aegis and Ekyl? Also ridiculous. We are talking about removing them for a third of a year for, essentially, continuing to present opinions about a future course of action. That's great. Truly.
An apology, I think, is in order from everybody, regardless of who is banned for how long, except perhaps Desdendelle, who argued against our actions and couldn't do much to actually stop us because he can't, say, forcibly prevent us from posting on the Board. I make one here.
JulyFlame, I would like to apologize for my actions and thoughts on you. I assumed the worst, without first knowing your side of the story, and because of that, I did not object when your personal information was revealed, and pushed to move the matter into an official inquiry without taking the time to examine why I did so. For this, I am sorry.
And now, two last notes. The first is on the nature of bans and temporary bans themselves. A ban is supposed to be the removal of an person who, to quote a friend, ".. is a repeat offender, is consistently not accepting of responsibility or punishments, and is unable to fit in with the community whatsoever." It is only to be used when somebody has proven that they cannot, beyond a shadow of a doubt, repent and reform into a constructive member of the community. A temporary ban is a moral punishment in which one person violates previously existing rules, and is intended to serve as a punishment, not as a way to drive them away from the community without initiating a full ban.
The second note is something that I believe everybody looking at this message knows, but I will say it anyways, because somebody must. Most, if not all, people looking at this thread say that Desdendelle's idea cannot be implemented, and so you have devised this new version, targeting specific people in order to attempt to sway others who would be opposed to this under most circumstances, to vote for lesser punishments in order to avoid ones of the severity you have proposed. I intend to pass no judgement here, I simply want to spell out what I think is on everybody's minds, that it may be acknowledged, perhaps argued against, and eventually moved past without turning into a festering sore in the minds of some.
This is all I have to say on the matter.
How people started going "We should change our Board policy so that the Iximaz situation will never happen again", and then promptly turn around and call people who defended them bullies and call for their bans.
For the record, we have confirmed abusers in the PPC community. As an example, palindromordnilap is a repeat offender who has harassed, threatened to doxx, and suicide baited and sent death threats to people.
Why shouldn't we ban those instead?
A, you use your actual name when making that sort of random attack at Palindromordinlap,
B, you do so in its own thread,
C, you actually provide evidence beyond "trust me they're a terrible person"
And D, you do so on a forum where this stuff actually occurred, rather than trying to drag us into a Kintsugi witch-hunt?
Do I support building a community that's better at detecting and dealing with abusive members? Absolutely. Do I think hijacking an existing high-drama thread with vague, anonymous accusations is going to help with that? Absolutely not.
Not everyone who said anything in the disaster wanted to go through with the Board doxxing. I know didn't. I've said multiple times that I told Aegis via PM not to go through with posting the info on the Board unless it was really needed, with consent, and with all personal information obscured for safety. I had not, to my knowledge, seen any instance of the information in the screencap being called for. I knew it wasn't a good idea to have anything to do with that screenshot; what I didn't know at the time is that the Discord channel is as public as the Board because not only could people who have access pop in and see the screenshot simply by scrolling to the conversation date, but the invite is publicly distributed so that, well, anyone else could. I've stated several times that I cannot apologize enough for not taking action against Tomash, and for doing absolutely nothing about the screencap being put on the Discord in the first place, as hS noted. I'm a busy, busy person, I was working on proofreading multiple academic papers at the time, and my dad was sitting right behind me while all this was happening, so if he so much as glanced in my direction I could be in serious trouble. Hence my relative lack of activity compared to certain other members. I've realized since then that I should've just taken the risk and spoken up against the Discord doxxing in the first place. Hindsight is 20/20, I guess.
With that being said, I have already apologized to the Board at large for not acting when I should have - and for that matter, not directing the actions I did take at the source of the issue - and I am willing to extend my apologies to JulyFlame specifically for the same reason. So, I imagine, would everyone else you've listed who have to do the same thing.
What I am not convinced about, however, is the notion that outright banning a number of people for taking part in a single huge offense is the best choice, especially after they've admitted, repeatedly, that they feel genuinely guilty about their actions. Tomash has stepped down as a chat mod and apologized multiple times to the entire Board for this incident. Granz and Alleb have also stated that they feel awful and that they won't repeat anything even close to this. I believe their words and accept their apologies, but at the same time I do feel that just a simple warning might not be enough. Banning them from the entire PPC community, though, is probably going to do more harm than good, even if said ban is temporary. Even if it was for good reason, I believe it would send the wrong message to those who've just found us and taken a first glance at what's been going on. Permabanning Tomash, who has been apologetic about the doxxing ever since it was first pointed out, could give the impression that you're not willing to listen to his feelings and give him a second chance. The closest I can think of to a metaphorical slap on the wrist would probably be to temporarily kick him and the others who started and/or exacerbated this incident from the Discord, for the amount of time you've proposed for each of them, but still allow them to participate in the PPC community as a whole, thereby at least giving them a chance to learn from their collective mistake. I don't know what other people would think of this, but it's probably the best approach I can think of to penalizing the kickstarting of what was plainly a witch hunt (even if I didn't realize that it was at the time). I repeatedly stated that there was nothing any of us could do to make things better, and I should've added that rampaging after someone else as though they were some sort of scapegoat would ultimately result in a complete and total cataclysm for everyone concerned. I can personally attest to that, having been subject to a witch hunt at least once in the past, and I can say with confidence that we as a community can and should do better than to start anything even close to one.
Be that as it may, I've stated this before in the Discord chat, and I'll state it again here: I am very, very disappointed in and ashamed of this entire clusterflock and the current state of the community in light of it. I joined the PPC in the hopes that it'd be more welcoming than any previous online community I'd known, but my faith in it has been repeatedly shaken, though not yet broken, by things like this happening more than once. In the aftermath of this fiasco, a very small part of me wants to say that if it weren't for my PPC writing responsibilities and the fact that I've made a number of good friends here that I can only contact via the PPC, I'd have walked out on everyone else here without a second thought. It's only a very small part, though, and I know ragequitting would not be helpful to anyone when I , and everyone else, should be striving to make this community a better place for anyone who visits it. (I'm also going to take this moment to say that I'm not even close to interested in being a mod for the Discord channel, having read your earlier opposition to electing anyone who was involved in this mess to that position. I've been through multiple occasions that have demonstrated that I'd make a horrible admin, plus I don't have even half the time to manage the Discord chat when I have so many other things to do as it is.)
Still, we as a community are better than this. We should be, and I hope we can be in the future. As it stands, though, there's still a long way to go before we can repair the damage that's been done to our collective spirit over the past few months, especially the past few days. And honestly, I think it's probably for the better that I distance myself from this whole conversation until my input or intervention is needed. The longer I read this entire mess, the worse I feel.
Which I made because I do not even slightly care what PC has to say about... basically anything, but particularly this.
I'm not exactly pleased by some of what he's had to say, particularly calling for my head, but he's a respectable member of the community with valuable insight.
I don't care for him or his contributions to the PPC one whit, but that doesn't and shouldn't invalidate his judgement; while I have my reservations about a self-confessed lurker barrelling into a sensitive discussion, this doesn't mean he shouldn't be listened to. This affects everyone in the PPC because it's indicative of cracks in the wall, and that isn't helped by dismissing other viewpoints out of hand. Isn't that what I've been complaining other people do?
(i am a hypocrite. this is not new information.)
PC, I apologise for that. Tempers are running high right now but that is no excuse.
I mean, he's the one who threatened to go all Stalin on every single person who was even present for the discussion, and I don't think his comments in the chatlog are those of someone who was doing "nothing to stop it".
Was I critical of July? Yes, very. But I was also on record as opposing the witch hunt and wanting the matter dropped, or at the very least put off for later.
On the principle of making a public apology... I accept the idea of doing one for not doing more than one or two statements to Aegis to calm down during this mess, although I'll also tell that I couldn't really do more at the moment, given the fact that despite what my indicator could say, my access to Discord during the week is at the very best sporadic. I didn't have a real opportunity to tell more, I'm working during the week, and that lets me very little time for the PPC, especially when most of the dscussion are during American time.
But... Desdendelle, seriously? He pretty much told how much of a bad idea it was during the entire moment of the discussion he was present, stressing at every turn how wrong it was. How exactly does that account for doing nothing?
Besides... Well, I said my access to the chat was sporadic, but what about other people being automatically connected to Discod because they dowloaded the app but aren't actually following the discussion, or cannot? If they couldn't do something, punishing them for that doesn't seem to be really fair.
As for the apology, I'm ready to make a dedicated post when you see fit.
As I am sure you are all well aware, recently I have been distant from the PPC. My job and it's fluctuating hours are in large part to blame for this, as with other real life commitments. By no means was this because I care for the community any less than I ever have. However, clearly I have not been nearly as approachable, nor as good of a friend as I would have liked to be. I have been supposedly active during a number of instances where I should have been a a friend, a means of support, but I was gone. I am so sorry Ix. I should have been a better friend. I don't even know if I deserve that title. I can only hope to be better in the future. I'm so sorry. Truly, I am.
That. All. Being. Said.
Guys.
What are we doing.
I don't like to sick my head into drama. It gets nasty, and I feel this community often guides itself towards the right path sooner or later. However, this time, there has been a while lot of yelling, and not a lot of action. So. Here I am to try and throw my voice in.
First, and foremost, accusations of harassment are extremely serious, and should be treated as such. Our reaction process has been slow in the past, mostly due to inaction on members of the community. I am part of this problem. As stated, I stay out of drama, as I trust cooler heads to judge. So, I feel that we need swifter action to examine and, if necessary, punish those who are harassing other members of this community. Clearly, asking for board-wide approval takes far, far too long for any feeling of closure. For the Discord, this is simple: mods need to bring down kicks harder and sooner. Not necessarily bans, but make it very clear when people have been out of line. Hit them with a warning. Second offense, a kick. Third, a temp ban, potentially permanent depending on severity. Also depending on severity, might skip the warning and jump straight to kicking. Needs to be done, needs to have been done a while ago.
However, for board, and community-wide response, this is trickier. My initial reaction is to have a panel of judges, to overview and determine:
1. Is there a case of wrongdoing
2. How we respond
The natural candidates for these judges are Permission Givers. We already, as a community, trust them to determine who can write in our shared universe. However, my hesitation towards giving them this extra responsibility is that it would put too much onto the plates of these select people. When they signed up for the job, all they asked for was to read stories and say if the author could write reasonably well. Now, we would be asking them to become effectively moderators. We have resisted the use of moderators on the Board for a long time, for many valid reasons. However, I think it has been clearly shown that we need faster, more decisive judgement. Moderators seem to be the best way of doing that.
Now, onto the issue of banning people right now. In my view, there is only one person who should possibly, maybe, be banned, and that is Tomash. Now, in my view, he has been shamed enough, has been shown quite thoroughly the error of his ways, and has profusely apologized for what he has done. Do not take this to mean I endorse what he did. It was a despicable act, and I do not blame those who want to see him banned. But, in my view, he has gone though enough. Consider this a NO BAN vote, but I will not object if we rule to ban.
However, the others on Desdendelle's little list: under no circumstances should they be banned at all. If I believe Tomash has received enough of a beating, lord knows I am not in favor of harsh punishment towards those members of the community either. Now, let me make this very, very clear. If you stood by while somebody was doxxed, or heaven help me, endorsed it at the time, you were in the severe wrong. What was done was immoral to a high degree, and may in fact be illegal. Shame on you. However, that is all that reprimand that should be done on these members. I feel this extreme outburst we have had as a community shows how we feel about the subject: we do not approve, and will not allow it to happen again. If it does, for any reason, to anybody, after this little debacle? I might be less forgiving. However, for now, we as a community need to heal. And we don't heal and repair by banning half the user base.
So, in conclusion, I feel it is high time this community has official moderators, who are elected to judge and enforce rules on behalf of the community at large. We have been too slow before. It is time to change it. Other then that, no changes needed to the Constitution. I feel that particular document is very, very clear and very well-written. Far more so than any other online community I can think of. We just need people to enforce it.
Moderators are not the solution. The solution is for every person in this community to do what we've said all along that they should be doing:
10. The PPC as a community is responsible for upholding the Constitution. If following Article 7 doesn't resolve a situation, any and all uninvolved community members have a responsibility to back up the person who is in the right, or to defuse an unclear situation. It is never wrong to ask a third party to comment on a dispute, but try to find someone uninvolved; a mediator will be more useful for resolving a dispute than a supporter.
When Iximaz and July had their argument, I talked to both of them, and helped July with her apology. When July and Matt Cipher had their argument, I talked to both of them and helped Matt with his apology. When Iximaz and GlarnBoudin had their argument, I looked at what was said and offered an opinion - and when my view was challenged, I reconsidered it and posted that I had. When Desdendelle shamed Iximaz, I spoke up. When I heard July had been doxxed, I got hold of the chat logs and spoke up.
I do not stand by. I do not let things happen. You may disagree with the conclusions I draw, the actions I suggest, the blame I lay or withhold, but you can never point at me and say I just ignore problems. If everybody in this community can do the same, this will never happen again.
And I want desperately for that to happen. This place, this Board and this PPC, is something precious, something unique. It's a place where we don't look to authority to keep us in check, but where we take responsibility for our own actions, and where we stand up for our friends when they are attacked. It's a place where we want to know the facts before we form our opinions - and when new information comes to light or our views are challenged, we don't lash out, but reconsider and reevaluate.
That's what I believe. That's the PPC I have stood for, for nearly fifteen years now. That's the community I trust every one of you to stand up for.
I want to give a huge shout-out to ninny4370 here. They are literally the newest person here, but they have stood up and called out the problem they see, and what they think we should do about it. I may not agree with what they suggest, but I am immensely impressed that they are saying it.
hS
Everyone right now is very tense due to this. I would recommend waiting a few days before implementing those actions.
Posting for the third time now, I want everyone who is part of the PPC to not post anything on the board related to the incident that happened. What everyone needs to do is cool down and rethink and let the emotions subside.
I am only posting this because I have seen multiple people post on the board expressing their disgust and using words most commonly used in desperation or when the person is not thinking straight.
These thoughts might not mean all that much to most of you, as I have largely receded into semi-lurker status, but I need to express them regardless. Good job, folks. You've really ticked me off.
First off, Iximaz? I am sorry for everything you are going through. It's obviously a difficult time for you, and you have my sympathy. Get well soon.
Now then, as for those involved in the railroading of JulyFlame… screw you. Screw you all. Sorry, I tried to think of something diplomatic to say, but I'm coming off of a nasty illness and pretty much coughed up the last of my available diplomacy this morning. What on Earth possessed you all to do something so craven, so stupid, so… very much against the spirit of this community? I certainly see a lot of excuses being cited by those involved: fear, anger, good intentions. Great, yeah. Acting on those has never backfired on anyone ever.
But I'm sure most of you just wanted what was best for your friend. Fair enough. I would hope that you all learn a lesson from this. If nothing else, you might learn to stop before you do something and consider how what you say, or what you write, might hurt someone. Maybe not the person you're talking to, but someone. Somewhere. Remember, this is the Internet.
On a personal note, I would like to share with you all how utterly disappointed I am to see the community as it is now. There are a couple of unnamed people in this thread whose actions and excuses have downright disgusted me. I would hope that those people come to their senses, but I sincerely doubt they will.
Regarding the open Discord mod positions, I say this: I will oppose the appointment or election of anyone to that position who was involved in this incident. And it will be a vocal opposition.
Sometime tomorrow morning, I will be posting a revised ban proposal. It will not be as… dramatic as Desdendelle's, but it will exist and it will be serious. What occurred was a violation of privacy, of confidentiality, of trust. Some sort of corrective action needs to be taken.
Wikipedia has this thing called an interaction ban. Basically, it's an enforced agreement not to interact with each otheR. Maybe agreement isn't the best term but I can't think of a better one right now. Anyways, if the two people involved start talking again more consequences happen.
My question is:
Would this be a good idea in the context of the PPC?
To be it seems a bit too extreme, and if two people really don't want anything to do with each other they'll just refuse to interact on their own accord.
The things that were done to July here were absolutely despicable. Doxxing someone is not only illegal, it's highly immoral, and in this case it might put July in direct danger. I demand that everybody involved in that discussion be banned forthwith. If I need to be banned as well (whether as part of that discussion or for some other reason) then so be it.
I call for the ban of Tomash. I call for the ban of Alleb. I call for the ban of Akrinor. I call for the ban of Granz. I call for the ban of palindromordnilap. I call for the ban of Storme Hawk. I call for the ban of Khryssty. I call for the ban of Matt Cipher. I call for the ban of Ekyl. I call for the ban of SkarmorySilver. I call for the ban of Silenthunder. I call for the ban of Jay - Awesomeness Central. I call for the ban of Hardric. I call for the ban of Aegis. Finally, if I need to be banned as well, then so be it.
This community should be ashamed that it let such disgusting behaviour come to pass. This community should send the strongest possible message that this sort of behaviour will not be tolerated. This community owes July at least a modicum of justice.
Let me run you over some of the logs you've clearly ignored in your blind rage of getting all of those people banned.
Akrinor-Yesterday at 12:11 PM
Actually, in a way it is part of exactly the can of worms we're about to open. But I agree with not putting the convo on board.
palindromordnilap-Yesterday at 11:32 AM
You should probably censor July's name and face.
Ekyl-Yesterday at 12:11 PM
If July wanted her real name known on the board, she would go by it.
Granz-Yesterday at 12:11 PM
We could quote the conversation.
Instead of using the screenshot.
Matt Cipher-Yesterday at 12:12 PM
I agree that showing face and real name is not cool and disrespectful. (...)
SkarmorySilver-Yesterday at 12:10 PM
And IMHO, putting that chat screencap in public view would be extremely disrespectful to all parties involved, which won't help anybody's case.
The only time you see Silenthunder joining that specific convo is when she says she agrees that the whole policy should be changed. Not even once does she say anything about JulyFlame or the screenshot.
But I guess it's easier to say all of them are guilty. Whatever. If you feel better about yourself, go ahead. Do your worst and ban me.
I was barely present during this discussion, mainly because I found it disturbing, and my only interventions wer about calming down and thinking hard before doing something really harsh.
I've got a rather bad habit of not speaking and avoiding problems when I face them. And could barely see both Discord and the Board at all during the last days, since I was at work, had to go to sleep early (10 PM here in Europa), and time zones are there.
This whole quagmire felt and feels incredibly wrong to me, both the issues raised, and the sheer explosion caused, meaning I barely posted because I thought the Board and Discord were too hostile for me.
The only moment I was resent on Discord and able to say something... Well first that was to ask for the situation. Then there was the... duck subtlety, stalinian process against July.
Unless my memory is driving me nuts, I spoke only twice during this whole debacle, and I was aiming for Aegis to calm down.
Des was telling him on all the tones what he was doing wasn't a good idea in any univrse, and Aegis didn't bulge. One of my two interventions was bouncing off on a reply Nyme had posted to stress the just wrong aspects of his demarch and got him to think really hard before doing it.
He said he would take time to calm down, so that somewhat worked, and didn't did anything more, both for a lack of time and a no envy at all to go in a discussion which showed all signs of going to total toxicity.
I didn't posted here when I could have the time here before that because of said bad habit of not wanting to be near violent discussions. That's all. I guess that's weakness and a default, but approbation for toxic self-destruction it's not. At all.
Not that I expected anyone to take that seriously, but if this isn't the Board on fire, I don't know what is.
Look. I agree that Tomash must go up for a ban. I say this with deep regret, because I have always liked and respected Tomash up til now, I'd miss him, and I recognize that losing him likely means losing T-Board as well, but if anyone with a lesser reputation had done this thing, and if the victim had been anyone less controversial than July, it would not even be a question; it would be done. It cannot be overstated that this indiscretion is potentially life-threatening to July, who is active in the military, which does have enemies. The rules for her are not the same as for someone who is a private citizen. This is no mere hypothetical situation; this is not just "Internet drama." This is f**king serious, and if I could swear properly, I would, so that you would know I mean it.
The rest, though? I don't know. My gut instinct says it's overkill, but I haven't had time to go through the logs, because sometimes I have to work during the day and keeping up with the Board has been hard enough.
Don't get me wrong, I am extremely disappointed in a lot of you, and I find myself distrusting live chatrooms again, seeing as this is the second time I've seen one apparently become an echo chamber where a subsection of the community worked itself into a frenzied mob bent on persecuting one certain member on dubious charges.
I find it somewhat ironic that people in this thread were crying for more aggressive censure of wrongdoers, and then the minute Des tests that resolve to its natural extent, he gets such fierce backlash.
I'll try to get properly caught up tomorrow. Just... for f**k's sake, you guys, this is beyond stupid. I know you know that, I just need to say it for me.
~Neshomeh
You do not have to distrust live chat rooms because of this incident, yes the incident is overkill, but we need to cool off for a few days. Right now, emotions are on the fly.
It's not just this incident, though. It's everything that I've observed tends to happen in an environment where people feel they're behind closed doors and don't have to consider their words and edit themselves before they speak. It's much easier for things to get blown out of proportion in that environment. Up til now I've thought this group might be better than that, but honestly, when emotions run high and mob mentality kicks in, the group is only as smart as the lowest common denominator. I'm not pulling that out of my butt—I actually took a class on it in college. Hence, while I still think the people as individuals are mostly just fine, I distrust the environment that encourages groupthink.
~Neshomeh
Looking back at all of this, I have to agree with both sides of the argument here. Yes, doxxing is horrible and does not deserve to be mentioned in the same sentence as any PPC boarder. Heck, it does not deserve to be mentioned in the same sentence as anybody's Internet usernames anywhere, period. It's put lives at risk in the past, and a quick look at the article about it on Wikipedia has confirmed that it's actually led to the deaths of almost a dozen people since the 1990's. On a more personal level, when I got involved in drama a few years ago, I started worrying, albeit irrationally, that I'd be doxxed by at least a few of the others involved and suffer physical harm, or worse. I would never consider doxxing anyone I've fallen out with online, ever.
That being said, outright banning everyone involved in the entire discussion, even those who weren't there to see the screencap fiasco, will solve absolutely nothing and, I fear, may continue putting us in a negative light. Sure, I did chime in a few times when said screencap happened, but I only realized the gravity of what was going down at the time long after the fact. While I did drop out of the conversation due to being busy with personal matters, I PM'd Aegis later on and told him that I was firmly on your side, that this information should not be released publicly, and that doing so would come back to hurt everyone involved and couldn't be retracted. In hindsight I realize that a better course of action would have been to talk to Tomash directly and to tell him to delete the screencap from the Discord chat as well as his computer files if applicable (which is most likely the case). I apologize for not doing so immediately and also for not making a public attempt to decry the screencap incident while it was happening. My awful time management skills do not excuse the fact that I did nothing to stop this and if I have to deal with the consequences of my nonaction then I'm willing to accept them.
With that being said, however, outright banning every single participant in the whole conversation, including yourself, seems like an act of haste, and likely anger over the whole incident, as justified as it was. I don't know if the ban is from the Discord chat or from the PPC in its entirety, but shutting people out of this community just because they either were led by herd mentality to make a collective mistake will send a very bad message to anyone who happens upon the Board or other PPC-affiliated places online and thinks that we drop the banhammer willy-nilly for committing just one perceived offense.
I don't disagree that what Tomash did was unimaginably wrong, and I don't disagree that ganging up on July was just as bad. But making propositions out of sheer anger is likely to do more harm than good, especially in circumstances as dubious as this. I hope we can all learn from this, end this vicious cycle, and find a better way to handle drama, bullying, and general grossness, but I personally think insta-banning half the currently active PPC community because of one disastrous conversation is anything but that way.
I thought someone with authority here might step in and just say this was ridiculous, so since no one has, I shall voice my entirely un-authoritative opinion on the matter, which I do believe I made clear below.
This is ridiculous.
I won't speak on my own ban, because I think I made it clear enough (flippantly, but I don't think I was in the wrong) to talk about Tomash.
Yes, he made a mistake. No one here is denying that. But I also think taking away his position as a moderator is punishment enough. This is considering he posted a screenshot he shouldn't have posted in the heat of the moment when he assumed his friend was dead is not an action that calls for a ban.
Namely, because I don't see bans in this instance as a method for punishing people, but ways to eliminate nuisances from the PPC as a whole. I think that, on balance, Tomash's presence is a constructive one.
In summary I think that stripping him of modship is punishment enough, because what I see isn't indicative of a malicious presence in the PPC.
After a great deal of reflection, and more than a few conversations with certain parties, I agree that Tomash need not be banned, even if there is some punishment further than a loss of modship. What this further punishment would be, I am at a loss to.
However, I do stand by one earlier statement of mine. If we do impose a ban on Tomash, since this is, in essence, a retroactive application of the law, if anybody currently active has been accused of either revealing private information of another PPCer or harassing another PPCer, we should investigate those cases and try them according to the new methods.
Here's what I did wrong:
I participated in what has been deemed a witch-hunt. I helped direct the witch-hunt (see VM's post). This was wrong.
I didn't stand up, didn't speak, when July was doxxed. This was wrong.
I didn't try to calm tempers; I inflamed them, and was inflamed myself. This was wrong.
I have a few words in my defense, but they don't absolve me. Namely, I've chatted with July before, and I've seen the info in the screenshot before. Thus, when I saw the screenshot, I didn't think, "July has been doxxed." Doesn't excuse me--heck, it's more evidence that I wasn't thinking things through--but for me, at least, it wasn't new info. "I didn't really think about it" isn't exactly an excuse, though.
I was also worried about Ixi at the time, but that's no excuse, either. In fact, this worry should have made me more sensitive to others being wronged. But it didn't. I was an idiot.
Listen. I love this community. I spend a lot of my time here; I have a lot of friends here. I don't want to be banned. But what I did was wrong. I don't think July deserves this. July certainly didn't deserve to have any info posted--that goes without saying. We should all step back and calm down.
So... yeah. I've got to say, I don't think I deserve a ban. I was wrong, I did wrong, but I didn't have malicious intent. I thought that there were grievances to be addressed. So I'm going to ask that I not be banned--but that decision lies entirely with the community.
I'm going to step back for a few days. I'll be available for PM and Hangouts, but I won't be on the Board or in the main Discord chat. I'll let you all come to an agreement.
One last thing. Um, I know most of you aren't Christians, but Proverbs 15 sort of slapped me in the face. It's what I should have been doing this whole time, but didn't. It's worth a read.
-Alleb
Well, firstly, Tomash. I cannot myself make a judgement on whether what he did was illegal or not, but it was, in my opinion, a bad idea at the very least, and immoral and malicious at the very worst, although I do not think it goes that far. As he has resigned, I say ban him for a period no shorter than two weeks, but no longer than two months. This will give him long enough to think on his actions without being overly harsh.
As to myself, if I am banned, I will make no argument against it. I do not particularly wish to be, but seeing as yesterday, I made decisions out of fear and anger and, even if I did think revealing July's name and face were going too far, I did not speak out against it at the time. I do not know if I can be trusted without some form of punishment.
However, as to everybody else, I know some were not on for the entire thing. Aegis, especially, I believe was mostly there to notify us that Ix was alive. Furthermore, those who were there for the majority of the discussion were attempting to steer it into an actual discussion, not a witch-hunt, and several advocated at least taking this to the Board. And here is when I make a point about mass bans. The thing about Discord is, it's ridiculously easy to make a server. I made one in about a minute. Should we decide to invoke a mass ban, it would take me about ten to send off invites to everybody who has been banned, essentially splitting the PPC in two. I might not even use the dang thing, but my point is, you wouldn't really be punishing anybody, especially given that all it takes is a third person to put two people back in contact, creating an underground network that means that nobody is banned, ever. Such things only work when you have one or two toxic people who the group collectively agrees to remove from themselves and not speak to. Attempting this method would undermine the implementation of such systems in the future.
Should a ban be issued against Tomash, I suggest that any previous cases involving harassment or the revelation of private information of any PPC members be re-examined and judged according to the new system it appears would rise from this thread.
I have made an extremely glaring oversight and serious mistake in posting that screenshot. I again deeply apologize for what I have done.
In the discussion about that, it has become clear that the PPC does not trust my judgment or my ability to hold power because of my rash action yesterday. I would only like to say that I do not believe that my extremely unacceptable actions to be illegal.
This, however, leaves us with a lack of moderators that are active during the evenings in the United States (since Iximaz has also resigned and Cat-on-the-Keyboard is not very active). Would someone be so kind as to nominate my replacement?
I nominate GMA and Storme Hawk to the positions rendered vacant by yourself and Ix
I personally do not believe I am worthy enough of being a mod on the Discord channel.
If you and a number of others disagree with me then I will take the burden up. But personally I think that there are other members of this community who would be a better mod than I.
As per currently ongoing discussions in the Discord, I also nominate Aegis, Delta Juliette, and/or Maslab
So you propose to ban basically everyone in that conversation.
Firstly, as Tomash said, most of us did not know wether Ix had taken their own life, so I think it's viable to say that we all might just have been a little bit tense at that time, as well as on the verge of panicking.
Secondly, a big part of the later conversation was sparked by Aegis asking you to contact JulyFlame, since you had her contact info and asking for her consent on posting the conversation on the board. All the time while you were accusing us of not even trying to get her side of the story, when it was quite clearly part of what we were trying to do.
Lastly, even if you were justified in your calls for bans, if I recall correctly, in most cases the Constitution actually doesn't allow bans for "first offenders", which, if I am not mistaken, would constitute most of those you called out, barring actual illegal activity, which, except in Tomash's case, did not apply. I think the exact phrase used was "Everyone deserves a second chance.".
~Ak
P.S. I do agree that what Tomash did was wrong, and that he at the very least should lay down his duties as a mod,; however I do understand why he did it.
I actually see Des' point here.
What was going in that discussion was disgusting. And no, I am not going to accept the "we didn't know if Iximaz was even alive" thing - they continued well after the reveal that Ix was alright.
And what I saw made me so scared I failed to take action. I didn't stop the nastyness against July. I did only a pathetic attempt at rebuking the accusations against Huinesoron (which I'm afraid it was read as me willing to bop hS if he were to pass the thing as nothing, when I meant that if hS were to be like that I would be disappointed because that simply wouldn't have been the hS I know). I failed to help Desdendelle try to get people to reason.
I was afraid I would just become the next target, as I could be easily passed off as one of the "July-covering oldbies"
So I believe some kind of action is needed. I don't believe we should decide what right now, and of course we should look into actual individual responsibilites and not simply bring down the ban-hammer with the same setting on everyone - a couple days for cooling down before taking a decision, as ninny suggested, might be the best thing to do now.
But the sheer amount of hate I saw in that chat should not be treated lighly, and should not be let pass.
I'm generally opposed to bans, but here I agree some need to be handed down. First, Tomash. I largely agree with Seafarer above. But I am not sure it goes far enough. I do not think 6 months is enough, this is illegal behavior, and a very clear message needs to be sent that that is unacceptable in all circumstances. I do not know if a permanent ban is required, but we need a strong response.
I actually also second one, or at least some form of discipline for Alleb and Granz as well in this case. While I agree that there should not be guilt by association, both of them did definitively ask for the private information be released. Which is also wrong.
As for the rest of them I do not think anything they did quite rises to the level of significant discipline. Unless we are starting to punish for inaction now.
But bottom line is that conversation was absolutely disgusting and SHOULD NOT be tolerated. If this community is willing to tolerate that kind of behavior then we need to reevaluate.
Correct me if I'm wrong, but the default stance of doxxing seems to be "not illegal unless it's releasing home address, SSN, etc" and full names, while not morally acceptable, is not actually illegal.
I do agree that Tomash should lose his modship (and before anyone points fingers at me, I announced my own resignation below), and possibly have a temporary ban, but treating him like a criminal when he didn't do anything illegal that I'm aware of seems a bit much.
Internet law is not my specialty, but there are multiple issues involved with doxing. You have actual federal crimes involved in some circumstances, you have state crimes, and you absolutely have privacy rights at issue.
From what I understand the message posted included both a real name and contact information. That is not acceptable. At a minimum it was a private conversation. And from what I understand neither party to that conversation agreed to its release.
And for the record, I am not treating him as a criminal per-se. I think that there should be some level of disciplinary action taken. Regardless of the legality of the conduct, it is still a flagrant violation of, if not the letter, the spirit of the constitution.
Though it does come to me after the fact that some of my language may have been too strong, and given that I am not certain, I retract the part of my comment regarding the mentioning it as illegal. I cannot confirm or deny if that raises to that level. So for that I apologize.
That being said, it was still a blatant violation of our rules. And the punishment is still warranted.
If I'd say anything signifies hatred, it's Des wanting to wipe out every single person who was even present for the discussion.
To all of those except Tomash.
I read the logs. I know that what Tomash did was awful. But I say no to guilt by association.
Here's what I say: strip Tomash of mod powers. Ban him for at least six months. Actions like his which are not only immoral but actually illegal have to be punished, or there is no justice in the community.
(Actually, I might be convinced of a lesser ban for anyone implying that July deserved it for her actions - innocent until proven guilty and punishment must fit the crime and all that. But I only saw one or two people even getting close to that.)
And with that... we need to let this go. July's not here to defend herself, so any investigation into her actions cannot continue. Right now, we need to work out how to deal with this sort of thing in future and then set it in stone, in the rules.
There are a couple of people I think action needs to be taken against.
First, Khryssty said (paraphrased) "It's okay to dox someone if they're a bully". That isn't on.
I think I also saw Granz expressing similar views.
Then there was Scapegrace's little rant about hS. That was just complete disrespect for someone who wasn't there to answer, and who has in my experience always been calm and patient, listening to everyone's versions of events before making a call. I see that Scape and hS have talked about that, though.
Then I saw Des say "I don't think accusing July of bullying is right." And, uh, that isn't okay either. That's basically saying that July is somehow above the rules against bullying. I'm sure Des didn't mean it that way, but man. That alongside Des's lofty, dismissive tone and words (towards Aegis especially) have caused me to lose the respect I had for him.
Soooo... I wouldn't be averse to action being taken against the individuals named above, in addition to Tomash.
Perhaps with a lessening on Tomash's ban, as due to the conversation with EvilAI, whether his actions were actually illegal or not is a bit of a grey area.
As to my actions, I would first like to say that, baring one post of Alleb's that I agreed with, I did not target July, nor did I intend to target July with anything that I said that day. I was there when it all... kicked off (admittedly it was around 4-5 in the morning for me and I hadn't gone to sleep yet so I wasn't sure what to expect upon waking up). As I now frequently do, I logged onto Discord on Thursday in the school library after a rather important meeting about my future on my course (not that it's that important, I just like putting all the details in (BTW it went well)), and I got on somewhere around 4pm (4:18pm is when I make my first post to be precise) and coming into the middle of the conversation, promptly forgot about the work I was meant to be doing and went to read up on everything that had happened (and then proceed to swear a lot at what had happened, silently of course (I was still in the library after all)).
Then at 4:21pm I make my first post, in which I'm generally talking about Ix's leaving post on the board, specifically expressing a wish to post something despite not really being around for much of what Ix was talking about apart from the Glarn incidents and I quote "but I know saying that to Ix will make it sound as if I was ignoring them, and I'm left in a really difficult place." I then also expressed interest in hearing SeaTurtle's side of the Brink incident, mostly because out of the three other people still in the PPC at that time who were involved with the incident, SeaTurtle is the one I trust, and think of as my friend, the most (No offence meant to Ekyl and Zingenmir).
After six or so minutes, I then make this post, in reference to the new rules that may or may not be introduced.
"Part of me wonders if it would be better for us to instead of keep fixing up the Constitution to scrap it and rebuild it from scratch, and then have some way of actually keeping people to it so that bullies are fittingly punished."
And I honestly mean it, and I still do believe that what I said could be a good solution. I was trying to have an actual discussion about whether our current Constitution really, truly works for cases of bullying, and whilst I will admit I didn't have a copy of the Constitution next to me, or open on my browser at all. I honestly think that we need to change it, at least in part, to make sure nothing like this (both the whole incident surround Ix, and the consequences of it and the whole mess (for I don't know a better way of putting it) that it has caused afterwards.
Then came my big mistake. I agreed with Alleb when they stated. "The image itself should probably be posted." We all know the image that is being talked about, and now coming back to it, I realize I should of said more than just "^". I should of said, as I believed it would have been understood at the time, that the proper consent would be given before the image was posted and, due to the fact I have never (and probably now will never) use Hangouts (or whatever it was), I did not realize said image would contain a picture of July and they're name, I believed it'd contain, much like on Discord some kind of profile picture and a username similar to the ones we use in the PPC. I was ignorant, and I should of said more than I did, I'll admit I'm guilty to that much.
A minute or two later I responded to Granz's post of:
"Do we include specific articles dealing with punishment in the Constitution, should we rewrite It? How specific do we get? How do we actually put it into practice? And seconding the posting of the image."
With:
"Yes, there should be articles in the Constitution about the punishment, so that those who think they'll be able to get away with bullying others will know exactly what will happen to them in turn."
With regards to my previous post saying about redoing the Constitution. I'll admit, reading that back I sound like a bit of a dick, it could come across as a bit hard (I generally am towards bullies, for reasons I mention later), but once again this was me trying to have a discussion about redoing the Constitution, this wasn't aimed towards anyone specifically, it was about honestly believing (at that time) that parts of the Constitution are flawed and need to be changed to help better prevent and punish bullies in the community. I then also follow up with
"We need to take a hard fast stance on bullies or else we might as well not take a stance at all."
Granz then asked a couple of questions that I didn't (and still don't) have a proper answer to. As far as I was aware, for this part of the conversation we were having a discussion about potentially redoing the Constitution itself, and whether that would actually work. I respond with my reasons for my stance on bullying.
"I was bullied for 11 years of my life because my teachers thought the best thing to do when an act of bullying was reported was to gather the two parties in a room and tell the bullies to, and I quote "Not do that again." And then send us on our ways." I'll admit, I'm not the most comfortable to post this on the internet at large, but I think it needs to be said to understand where I come from with regards to bullies (And for those who are interested, I'm currently 22, so yes, that is half my life I've been bullied. But once again, this (to me) merely justifies my stance towards bullies and basically nothing else).
In response to Khryssty's very fair questions of "What worries me is the degree of waffling this has revealed in the community. Will I really be safe here?"
I responded with: "You'll be safe, that is one thing I would always promise to uphold (and always do)" And it's true that I try and do that, and that I try and be firm but fair when I am called upon to settle disputes in the other corners of the internet that I hang out in, however rarely it happens these days. I realize that this could be read as "I want to rule the board/PPC with an iron fist." I don't, far from it. I am just saying that I try and make sure everyone feels safe whenever I can.
I make a couple of little comments before mentioning "Yeah, and also some people don't know about certain situations because they simply weren't there for them. So how can they comment on it if they don't know about it?" In response to (for me) the fact that in Ix's leaving post (I mean no offense here) I felt like they were blaming everyone in the PPC for either taking part in, or not standing by her during the three incidents that she had mentioned, I was trying to counter-claim by saying that, if one is not there, how can they be blamed for something, unless it explicitly happens because they are not there. I then continue on this tangent with "Yes you can read up on it after it has happened, but that doesn't help if a decision is needed then and there." before realizing it was indeed a tangent and deciding to shelve it away for later.
I make some comment about needing groundwork before we are able to continue, in which I was talking about if we were to redo things to do with how we handle bullying, nothing more or less. Then I make my other point that I think still applies (and shows that even on 5 hours sleep and with some stressful things happening earlier in the day I can still make up intelligent comments).
"We need to see past oldbie, middlebie, whatever. Just because they've been around a while doesn't mean they can't be held responsible for what they've done. If hS did something really rude and wrong I'd want him to be held accountable for it (for example)."
hS was just an example, it wasn't meant to be anything related to Scape's comments, it was merely because hS was the oldest-bie I could think of whose name (or shortened version thereof) I could spell relatively quickly. But it is a good point, sure respect your elders, but also remember that elders aren't always right, and that just because you've been here longer than someone else doesn't make you more right, or more in the right than someone who hasn't been here as long. I mean look at me, I count as an oldbie (somehow), and yet in some ways still feel like I should be treated as more of a middlebie (and even newbie in some cases) than an oldbie. But that's just me I guess.
It was at this point I needed to go off to my lecture (Yay, deriving the Black Scholes formula). I then returned somewhere around 6:20pm (ish) and kinda lurked on Discord (as well as reading what had been said in my absence) by which point it'd mostly died down.
So yeah, that's my side of things (in one giant post that I feel really sorry for anyone who has just read through it all. I'm aware the grammar is probably atrocious, I'm sorry). I'm not going to try and say I was definitely in the right, or definitely in the wrong. For the most part I was trying to have a discussion about how to better the PPC and the Constitution to prepare against something like this happening again.
If that is wrong, ban me, but I refuse to just accept being nominated for a ban because I felt that this had pointed some glaring holes in our community that NEED to be fixed and thought I would say something about it. And whilst I am strongly tempted to nominate Desdendelle for a ban as well, I refuse to, partially because I feel like falling to that level is inherently wrong, and SHOULD NOT BE DONE. And also because I recognize his point of view, and likewise July's POV, I may not respect it, I may not like it, but I will defend to the death their right to say it.
Storme Hawk
Who would have posted this in half the time if their 'o' key worked more than half the time.
In fact, let's ban everyone. Dissolve the PPC. That takes care of the problem.
This could be a different person.
It's Toroll.
You're using Tor. You're trolling. You're Toroll, regardless of whether you're the original or a sad copycat.
And I'm insulted by the idea that I might possibly be Desdendelle. To dispel this notion I have no problem unmasking. While I find this whole thread wildly amusing, mostly because Data was right about July being a bully and Des being a fool the whole time, I have not been involved lately because honestly you lot aren't worth my time anymore since Data left.
Also, don't bother banning this IP, though I'm sure you will anyway. This is a 24-our coffee shop several miles from my home.
Their actions are in line with one we all know and love
While I definitely think that Tomash should be knocked a good month into the future w/ the Ol' Ban Hammer for that little leak, banning that many people feels like it might be a tad overkill.
I believe the aforementioned Tomash said it best: "Please keep in mind that during most of the beginning of that log, the people talking were unsure whether Iximaz was alive and therefore under a lot of emotional stress."
I do think I understand, but again, my biases prevent my saying anything. Wouldn't want to be banned, after all. My hands are tied, really.
Banning people, including yourself is not the answer! Even though I may be a newbie, this cannot pass. This is not the right thing to do, banning them because they were in the DISCUSSION is going to far.
Maybe don't go full bloodthirsty, eh? I was on your side of the disgussion.
The Discord chat (or specifically, the people present yesterday) owe(s) July and apology for the witch hunt conducted against her yesterday. I don't think a discussion about bullying can be held in clear conscience while that's still in the air.
I've been trying to stay out of this since I think it's a community issue and not a personal one, but I really can't anymore.
Yes, Tomash posted a screenshot he really shouldn't have. I've discussed this with him, and he's genuinely regretful for doing so without the consent of both parties, which, if you'll examine the logs, I believe you'll find we later discussed thoroughly.
I can't speak for the Discord, but I believe I'm not alone in that when I saw the post in the Discord, I believed that the damage had been done, and felt it would be buried quickly enough in the chat that anyone joining wouldn't see it unless we kept talking about it like it was there. I should've asked Tomash to delete the screenshot to mitigate the damage done to July's privacy, but I didn't. I admit I made a mistake there, and one I hope not to make again.
That said, I don't believe what happened here was a witch hunt. A few people got overzealous (names don't occur to me) but emotions were running high and not everyone can keep their head when things get that way.
What I was asking for was contact information so that I could privately speak with July, and ask to see if she would consent to that screenshot being posted. This was to be done with private information redacted, in the event that the community as a whole discussed exactly what bullying constituted, given that "harassment" can be difficult to define.
My first response to Ix's post was "Something looks way off about this, I'm staying out." And I planned to stay all the way out - I'm so, so very tired of drama.
But there are significant parts of that log that specifically call for punishment of July. In fact, judging from this:
Alleb-Yesterday at 11:44 AM
This dialogue feels... unproductive. We've basically just been saying "this is bad, we need to change." So are we going to? What steps do we need to take to make sure there isn't another situation like this? What are we going to do? We're writers; our business is words. Right now, though, we need action.
Khryssty-Yesterday at 11:44 AM
Thank you.
Delta Juliette-Yesterday at 11:44 AM
Aye. I should be working.
Granz-Yesterday at 11:44 AM
And who do we take action against?
Alleb-Yesterday at 11:45 AM
JF, I think. Glarn is already gone.
Granz-Yesterday at 11:45 AM
So is she, mostly.
Alleb-Yesterday at 11:45 AM
True.
But we also need to lay down plans for future incidents.
Tomash-Yesterday at 11:46 AM
Isn't it mostly "what" do we take action against?
Alleb-Yesterday at 11:46 AM
This should be a catalyst for us.
SkarmorySilver-Yesterday at 11:46 AM
I don't know if there's anything we CAN do at this point, for anyone or to anyone.
Khryssty-Yesterday at 11:46 AM
It would be easier to just let the banhammers swing and get JF completely out of the picture before any more damage can be done.
Guys . . . that's almost the definition of a witch-hunt. "This person is upset/something is wrong. We need to punish someone. Let's ban this person who we judge to be to blame." Tomash points out that the dialogue should be taking action against an action, not a person. But that bit there? Let's punish someone for this grievance? That's a witch-hunt. (Ironically, considering the last accusation of bullying, it's also very Foucaultian.) To say something cannot be called a witch-hunt because of "the heat of the moment" and "emotions were running high" is to ignore the nature of a witch hunt. . . which is, again, finding a scapegoat for a perceived problem, using emotional mob mentality. I also see nasty things being thrown at Huinesoron. Not as much at Neshomeh. I see Desdendelle, here, telling Iximaz that withdrawing from a medication, specifically one targeting the nervous system, is no excuse for lashing out. I'm guessing he's never had to deal with withdrawal from an anti-psychotic. My point is, however, that "emotions ran high" is no excuse for grabbing the torches and pitchforks to run someone out of a community.
I can't even address the doxxing. We've all played fast and loose with our own privacy over the years, when among people we trust with our identity. I have no words for how I feel seeing it rebound against someone.
That's why my stance during the discussion had been to leave July out of the overall discussion. I was worried about the implications of "let's do something to make sure incidents like this don't happen again" and "let's go after July!" being talked about in the same breaths.
Here's 84 pages of discussion, minus one screenshot.
Please keep in mind that during most of the beginning of that log, the people talking were unsure whether Iximaz was alive and therefore under a lot of emotional stress.
Some observations and thoughts:
1. You lot decided to have one of Iximaz's posts deleted from the Board without her say-so and without bothering to tell her? I understand that the idea came from Aegis, who you understandably trusted to know Ix's mind, but still, that was not smart, and clearly added to the problem. I feel that should be openly acknowledged.
2. You're taking one person's feelings as hard evidence that the community is broken and everyone in it is a failure of a human being. That's really messed up. However much we like Iximaz and however serious her troubles are, she is just one person. Do not base your self-worth and your judgement of this group on one person's feelings. It's not fair to anyone, especially not Iximaz. How on Earth do you think it makes her feel to have the community fall apart because of something she said while undergoing a bad drug withdrawal? That's an incredible amount of pressure to put on her, and it's not fair.
I know you all care about Iximaz and want to help her, but please see my reply to Aegis here about the necessity for Iximaz to be responsible for herself in order to be an empowered, well-functioning adult. We can be as supportive and attentive as you please, but if she doesn't tell us something is wrong, we are not to blame for not knowing. If she's not doing the work she needs to do to move past her trauma, nothing we can do will fix it. Do not take away her power by denying that.
3. Feelings are not facts. I just want to state that flat-out. Feelings are not facts, especially when you all are well aware that the person having those feelings is not of sound mind at the time. See above comment on the unfair amount of pressure that puts on Iximaz, who has enough to worry about without all of you going on a crusade if she says boo when she's high or detoxing. Taking her seriously does not mean unconditionally believing that everything she says is an accurate representation of reality.
3.5. I'll add here that I'm not comfortable with the nightly sessions of hanging out with her in voice chat when she's taken her meds and ought to be trying to sleep. I was there for it a couple times, and I get it—I experienced a sense of bonding and freeing from inhibitions, which I enjoyed even as I felt kind of icky about it. However, I'll note that I also urged Iximaz to go to bed. Nobody can make her do that—I repeat that Iximaz is responsible for making her own choices—but might I suggest that we no longer enable her fighting her medication by participating in those sessions, should she return to Discord? We all need to be more responsible toward her, and this is one concrete way to start.
4. I suppose I should address what was said, or rather implied, about me. Yes, I advised Iximaz not to throw away what had been a very close friendship with July over one stupid misunderstanding. I think dropping July was an overreaction based on past trauma that was not relevant to the situation, and I stand by that. I will not support allowing trauma to run anyone's life unchecked, forever.
I also think that, if you can understand and forgive Iximaz's issues, you should also be capable of understanding and forgiving July's. She was not just "tired"; she had worked a grueling 22-hour military shift, and I daresay she was in fact triggered by something that felt, to her, similar to a past trauma she went through with the IRC. In keeping with not letting trauma run our lives, however, she realized she had done wrong, regretted it, and repented. Maybe Iximaz had legitimate reasons for being unable to process that at the time, but none of the rest of you do now.
5. The witch-hunt was, in fact, a witch hunt. Someone said "we should DO something!", someone else said "yeah! who are we gonna punish?", and y'all decided it was July you wanted to burn to set a precedent for the future. Yes, there was talk about getting her side, but it's pretty clear that at least some of you had already made up your minds. Des was the only person who spoke up to defend her, and you disregarded him.
6. There's been some sentiment floated about how the oldbies defend July because it's the status quo or something? And how we give her a pass because she's seen as an authority? That's such BS. I can't speak for anyone else because we are not a hive mind, but for myself, I defend July because I know her, I trust her, and she's been a good friend to me. As such, I also call her on her behavior when I think it's wrong. You don't always see it because I communicate with her privately, especially since she's not on the Board as much these days (and who can blame her when half the community is just waiting for any excuse to string her up?), but if you want to go and look at the thread surrounding Ix's falling out with her again, I believe you will see me doing just that. Put that in your pipe and smoke it.
I'm sure there's more I wanted to say, but I haven't had breakfast yet. Maybe more will come to me later. I think those are the most important points I wanted to hit, anyway.
All in all, the main problem I see here is that enough of you have wound yourselves so tightly around Iximaz with your concern for her feelings that you've given her the power to destabilize the whole community. This is dysfunctional and absurd. Please unwind yourselves so that she can have a more normal relationship with the group and so that we can all return to being individuals with our own normal, non-Iximaz-related agendas.
~Neshomeh
1) Sweet Ghezen, was that a mistake. We decided to delete some of the posts she made in chat too and I was the mod who carried that out. That's not the right way to deal with someone saying things they might regret later. I did a bad job as moderator and will do better in the future.
Applicable to misc. other numbers) I have been overconfident in my understanding of PPC dynamics. A little knowledge is a dangerous thing -- I used I knew the important parts of what was going on, and have realized I do not. I will be more humble in the future.
--Key
1) That was a mistake. I trusted Aegis. His reasons (he wanted to mitigate the damage when Ix's withdrawal ended (he thought it'd be the next morning)) sounded good at the time. It turned out that the deletions were the wrong thing to do, and I regret my panicked involvement.
2) When I initially heard the complaints several days before they were raised on the Board, I felt they couldn't be entirely accurate, but I trusted Iximaz enough to try and look in to them. My actions while doing so (see my reply to hS elsewhere) probably made things worse. I realize now that she had never spoken out about the things she was complaining of, publicly or otherwise. It took me a long time and several missteps to realize that I was hearing an extremely skewed interpretation of events and that no one else know anything about how Iximaz felt. I had a gut feeling something was off about what I was hearing, but I didn't want to dismiss it because of my frinedship. I'm sorry for all the trouble I caused with my half-hearted investigations and crusades.
I didn't really understand what had happened to Iximaz and what I (and she) needed to do that would be actually helpful.
3) I tried to not unconditionally believe what I was hearing without completely ignoring it. I didn't realize what was going on, especially since I didn't know about the mood swings caused by the new meds until after I'd heard Ix's thoughts on the community.
3.5) Good point.
4) Nesh, I completely understand your actions, and I think they were the right thing to do given the circumstances I am now more aware of. I thought ill of you without all the facts, and I shouldn't have done that.
5) There was a witchhunt. I'm ashamed that I threw fuel onto the fire by posting what I did. I hope that the remainder of the record shows that I didn't want to blame or punish July for that sort of thing, but I worry I was not clear about this at the time.
In general, Neshomeh, your comments on this situation and how it has been handled have been extremely helpful to me. I realized that I made a lot of mistakes in how I reacted to what Iximaz was doing and saying, and I believe I have learned from what you and others have been saying on the board so that I will be less unintentionally damaging in the future.
I admit I may have, as you said, wound myself too tightly around Iximaz's feelings, and done some very bad things because of it. Can I be forgiven?
Just in case anyone thought it was aimed at Tomash alone.
But anyway, Tomash, thank you for your responses. I do forgive you. I know things are really messed up and confusing, and I do believe you were trying to do the right thing by your friends. Plus everything I said in my reply to Mattman up there.
I'm very happy to hear that you've found my posts helpful. I regret that I haven't said some of these things earlier, in fact, but this crystallized a lot of them for me, so I hope it's not too late and that we can all learn from this.
~Neshomeh
Hi guys! I've seen your chat logs now.
Who wants to help me count the ways this is a horrifying post? Let's start!
1/ Tomash posted a private conversation between two people who were not him, without permission from either of them.
2/ Tomash posted about me, discussing my actions in a place where I have made it very clear I will not go. Talking about people behind their backs is explicitly called out in the PPC Constitution.
3/ Tomash misstated, if not flat-out lied about, my reaction. Here's the entire conversation concerning that picture; I received a reply from Iximaz which I have not shown, but never an answer from Tomash.
4/ Tomash chose to post July's full name and face in a public place, where there is a permanent record, without her knowledge or consent.
I'm looking desperately for anyone objecting to this. I've found one "I'm not sure about posting the image", one "you should probably censor July's name and face" (note: future tense, not past"... and one "If July really has been verbally abusive, why protect her?"
Tell me how this is acceptable behaviour. Tell me why it's okay for a moderator to publically post someone's real identity in the course of resolving an argument. Tell me why you - and I make it at least a dozen of you who were there - are perfectly fine with something that can be linked to July's real name, home, family, job, everything... being publically splashed across the internet in front of people who are busy saying how abusive she is.
Tell me. I'm listening.
hS
I have no saying on the matter, nor do I have anything that would in any way, shape or form justify Tomash's idea. I will not deny that my personal problems with July led me to be a part of this conversation, however nowhere in the logs you see me saying that her real name and face should be made public.
Two days ago, a certain somebody (to whom I am still thankful) gave me few good arguments as to why narrowing down JulyFlame as the sole source of PPC peer abuse was not the right path to take. Everyone at that time in Discord was concerned for Iximaz, true, but it's evident that they we should have focused on the issue as it was whole, not just what one person could have been guilty of. For that approach, I was ready to offer my apologies to JulyFlame (and not because Des said so), however doing so would only worsen the already hanging-on-a-thread relationship we have, as it was evident by my IWD post. Therefore, even if I regret voicing my opinion at the time, I can't bring myself to apologise to JulyFlame directly.
However, I would like to address one of the things you mention here, hS.
"I'm looking desperately for anyone objecting to this. I've found one "I'm not sure about posting the image", one "you should probably censor July's name and face" (note: future tense, not past"... and one "If July really has been verbally abusive, why protect her?""
It actually goes a little more than those three (well, two, since the last one isn't really an objection) sentences. You can see the logs below in my reply to Des's ridiculousness, but just to bring them out once again what I managed to find:
"Actually, in a way it is part of exactly the can of worms we're about to open. But I agree with not putting the convo on board."
"You should probably censor July's name and face."
"If July wanted her real name known on the board, she would go by it."
"We could quote the conversation.
Instead of using the screenshot."
"I agree that showing face and real name is not cool and disrespectful. (...)"
"And IMHO, putting that chat screencap in public view would be extremely disrespectful to all parties involved, which won't help anybody's case."
As you can see, the objection was there. Not everyone present in the conversation was perfectly okay with doing this.
There were several objections to posting the image on the Board.
Absolutely no-one took Tomash to task for posting it in the public Discord channel.
I am glad that some people were aware that the image should not be posted on the Board. But that does not make the lack of reaction to it being posted on the Discord okay.
hS
While I was taking up the cause of "hey maybe no witch hunts" it somehow completely slipped my mind to put my foot down on the screencap being in the Discord to begin with. Oops.
Sorry.
I doubt I can speak for anyone else, but I personally had no idea that the Discord channel was as public as the Board - the invite-based nature led me to think that only those who were invited to the channel at all would see it. I should've known that this could potentially include everyone who's ever been on the channel should they hop in and scroll up to when the conversation was happening.
As I noted yesterday, I did speak to Aegis about not posting the screencap on the Board, but in hindsight I should've taken offense to it being put up on the Discord in the first place or anywhere that could be seen by anyone online for that matter, even other community members. Again, my deepest apologies go to everyone involved, and I guarantee that I'll be more vigilant regarding these kinds of acts in the future.
Never before have I thought of the Discord channel as something that, under right measures, can be made public to pretty much anyone. Should've known better after that Reddit problem.
I admit to my lack of reaction to that potential danger that could've been inflicted on JulyFlame. No point in trying to defend myself there. To my future judges: Do what you think is right.
July's name and face are, if not public then easily accessed but at least a quarter of the board. I just checked, and I still have her name, email address, an old picture, and a bunch of other stuff from ages ago when we were friends. She's never been shy about it.
First: you are absolutely correct. This isn't acceptable, especially from a moderator. It's illegal, and I really think Tomash should have his mod powers stripped from him because of it.
The conversation, though? That's evidence. Tomash doing something stupid in the heat of the moment does not and should not absolve July of her alleged offence against Iximaz.
I also note I don't see a witch hunt in the logs. I see people asking for July's testimony. That's an informal trial unfolding as it should - trying to get all sides before passing judgement.
You know, it would probably be a good idea to institute a rule not to post while angry and/or extremely tired, just to avoid situations like those July's apparently prone to. Angry posts often give offence that isn't intended, and a rule banning it would protect the more fragile members of the community.
Now, it'd be good to get back to the important conversation of what are we going to do to stop this from happening again. I was wrong before - we can't do anything about July until she's here to defend herself. So let's fix the problem.
Literally, that's what witch-hunt means.
And you can't have a trial without the person you're accusing in the room.
Trials in absentia are definitely a thing.
But, you know, that's why I'm calling for July to be dropped from this discussion until she's actually around.
Looking back, my actions regarding that screenshot were completely unacceptable. JulyFlame, I apologize for leaking that information about you. It absolutely should not have happened. Iximaz, I apologize for dragging things into the light without consulting you (or July, for that matter). I have removed the screenshot in question from the Discord.
I posted in the interest of allowing the community to be fully aware of the circumstances surrounding Iximaz's departure, so that we could learn from them. I made a huge mistake in the process of doing this, and, again, I apologize. The only possible mitigation for my actions in this matter is that I did not know whether Iximaz was alive when I made that post, and I was angry and scared.
Huinesoron, during that email conversation, I was following up on a version of Iximaz's departure post I had heard a few days earlier, which included accusations of specific groups of people being uncaring. I didn't want to say what I was looking in to for fear of a backlash. During that conversation, it became clear that you didn't know the extend of July's actions at the time or how they had affected Iximaz. When I sent you the image in question, I sought to inform you. I interpreted your final reply as dismissing the validity of Iximaz's perception of events, that is, as claiming that she should not have felt harassed by those events. If this wasn't what you meant to say, I apologize for significantly misinterpreting you.
You have not received an answer from me because I have not had time to compose it in between traveling and dealing with the present situation.
I brought you up in that message because, again, I wanted everyone to know what had happened so that things could be improved. I realize that I was talking behind your back, and I apologize for that.
You will delete any copies of that screenshot that you have. That goes for anyone who took a copy from the chat, as well. Delete it.
This ends now.
hS
The reason I'm only posting this now is that I needed Iximaz to delete the copy she sent me from our private message history before I could truthfully say they were all deleted.
Seriously, guys, this needs to be said? This is basic internet etiquette/common sense/human decency.
Not okay.
July is a human being whom I happen to trust and respect a great deal, despite, I feel it relevant to note, having personally fallen out with her in the past. She's not perfect, but none of us are. We all have our issues, and none of us deserves to be treated as an acceptable target whenever something goes wrong. She has feelings, too, and it is not acceptable to tread on them with impunity.
I can't let this go unsaid: Iximaz is a wonderful person whose presence we value, and they do deserve to be taken seriously. However, we cannot properly do that without also bearing in mind that their mental illness, and sometimes side-effects of the treatment for it, means that they are not always 100% rational. Let us strive not to fall into the trap that turns understanding and accepting into enabling. This is as much for their sake as for ours as a community. It doesn't help anyone to encourage them to persist in destructive behaviors (internally or externally directed), and we can't be bending over backwards and changing the very structure of our community every time something goes wrong with someone's meds. This is a pattern at this point, and I would rather not see it play out again if we can avoid it.
Just to be clear, I don't mean this as a criticism of Iximaz. I state that they have a mental illness not as a slur, merely as a fact. I mean only to encourage a deeper understanding of their issues and more responsible behavior toward them on the community's part.
~Neshomeh
I agree with most of what everyone's said, and I suppose I'm replying to this not to attack anyone's argument but to mull over some mixed feelings on the matter. I disagree that July isn't a bully, I've seen and experienced her acting downright viciously to people with little or no justification and expecting everyone to act like it's fine. There've been problems like this for years. She kicks people around with impunity and it somehow gets treated as bad when people shoot back.
That said, all of those actions have been ages ago, I've not seen July around in ages nor do I know if any of that still applies. I also know nothing of the incident Ix cited to speak as to what happened, since I wasn't present, but here's the important thing:
None of what I just said justifies doxxing somebody. The moment we look for "justified" targets for leaking names, faces, personal conversations etc., where does it end? Anyone can justify anything if they try hard enough and whatever feelings I have about the people involved, that's unacceptable, especially when somebody isn't around to speak in their own defence. That should really be as clear as day. Whatever we think about whomever, whatever the discussion being had, we should still be bound by common decency.
Posting the screenshot at all was unacceptable, that should be the end of it. Now, as far as witch hunts, I again have mixed feelings. I feel the accusations of a witch hunt, beyond what Tomash posted, don't really have much basis in fact, but as I said repeatedly in the chatlog, there seemed to be a lot of emphasis on punishing July where I honestly felt it was irrelevant to the more important discussion at hand. If we're talking about improving community standards and whatnot, that seems like a discussion that should be had without inextricably tying it with one specific spat between two PPCers. Aegis wanted to just talk to July privately, much like I was given the opportunity to speak on the matter of Brink in the chatlog, and that's fine. Overall, however, I feel it's more constructive to discuss next steps and where we go from here than going after someone who isn't really even still around.
This went downhill very quickly. That is all
I've been sans-Internet the last couple of days due to moving to a new apartment, I'm tired, and I'm sick of crap like this, so I'm not going to say much right here.
However, I think it is important to note that neither July, nor Ekyl, nor GlarnBoudin have been particularly active, nor—as far as I'm aware—so much as spoken to Iximaz since the incidents she mentioned as driving her to self-harm, quitting, etc. I have strong feelings about things like this due to Tray-Gnome's attempts to turn the community on me by claiming I was making them feel unsafe just by existing, despite also not having spoken to them since one single incident where we had an Issue (which I had apologized for and taken a leave of absence after, incidentally). I don't think this paints a picture of people who are bullies.
More when I'm more sane, please don't burn down the Board while I'm otherwise occupied, thanks.
~Neshomeh
We need to be less reluctant to punish wrongdoers. I know I always want to think the best of everyone, and I think that the community in general gives too much benefit of the doubt, even when it isn't deserved. We need to act more quickly -- don't get me wrong, we need to treat people as innocent until proven guilty, but we need to act immediately once we get proof. I agree with what was said below: our ban votes are too long.
First step to take: we Discord mods need to be quicker to kick. I know no one likes punishing people we know, but this needs to happen, and kicks are pretty temporary.
However, we should stop having a freely available, eternal Discord invite on the wiki. This would require us to invite each newbie and returnbie separately, but would mean that kicked members would have to PM a mod to get back in, allowing the mods to impose cool-down periods/bans. These would not be unilateral actions by one mod: if one person was being unreasonable, the person being unfairly banned could contact a different mod and get back in.
--Key has lots of thoughts, this is just a start
First of all, getting rid of the permanent invite is jumping at shadows. At no point did we have a problem with someone abusing it to return to the channel after being kicked. If it ain't broke, don't fix it.
Second, are you ready to accept responsibility for kicking someone unjustly? Are you ready to face the consequences of that, whatever they may be?
Third, I don't get how we (or rather, you guys who were around for that) could've stopped what happened two days ago. If you could go back in time, you'd go and kick Ix from the channel at the middle of her shouting? Would that solve anything?
I've been reading what's been going on since I last posted, and everything I said was pure idiocy. I am not qualified to make suggestions here. Please disregard what I said above; I no longer think it's a good idea.
-- Key
I particularly agree with the bit about the eternal invite. It did strike me that certain members could have just gone to the wiki page and thrown themselves back over and over again, and if there's account-banning, then they'd just make new accounts in order to harass people.
I would consider getting rid of the Discord Chat altogether. I think just about every recent issue over the past two-three months have all started there. I think it might be something about the lack of time to consider before posting. On the board it does take longer, and that might be a fix. It gives a chance for cooler heads to prevail.
The Discord, in this case, is kinda like plumbing — you only notice it when it starts acting up. Another metaphor is police: police mistakes/judgement errors tend to get blown out of proportion because nobody notices the good police does.
The point is this: your argument discounts all of the good stuff that goes over in the Discord in order to focus on its bad side, and further, Drama does happen even with no chat channel being around; we didn't have any Discord when the Data issue blew up, or when the whole mess with Brink and Ekyl happened.
Any time something bad happened in IRC, you had calls to dispense with it entirely. Wouldn't have fixed the problem then, won't now.
Assuming what she said about us as a community is true, we should educate ourselves on ways to a) know when we're bullying someone, b) know when we're being an apologist, and c) stop both of those. Seafarer's suggestion of handling JulyFlame before anything else also has a certain amount of sense to it.
I wish I had a more substantial answer, but I'm not as involved in the community as some of you. I do care about the mental health of everyone in it, which is why Iximaz's post troubles me.
Let's not assume that a) those people are bullies (because that merits looking into and "guilty until proven otherwise" is a bad principle to go on) and b) that we've somehow failed in stopping them (because that depends on them actually being bullies).
Firstly: we need some kind of moderator.
If someone's being bullied, how can they get help? What can they do? Every method of bringing the community's attention to this kind of thing involves posting something publicly - where the bully can see it. There's no safe, private communication that a victim can use to get help.
I would suggest a few trusted members of the community become that safe space. If someone feels victimised, they can contact one of those people directly. That way, the burden is off the victim - the mod (or whatever title you give them) can review and collect evidence (through forwarded emails, or being given access to the Google Doc, or whatever), and then they can be the one to present it to the community at large.
I'm also not really convinced that the entire community really needs a vote. We need clear guidelines about what punishment goes with what offence, and if we make those clear enough, a simple look at the evidence should be enough for the mod(s) to declare the punishment. Certainly, the evidence should be posted on the Board for all to review, and there may be some debate as to what level applies, but the final decision should be delegated to avoid the lengthy, time-wasting votes that we usually have.
But that isn't the thing that should happen first.
The community has been failing its members. Ix is the third person I've seen name JulyFlame as the perpetrator of bullying. July has driven at least three people from the community with her(?) behaviour. The first thing to do is decide what to do about her.
It makes sense to me to take the burden of collecting evidence off the victim, and it seems like a natural direction for Discord at least -- we already have a mod channel where we log warnings given (mostly for language, etc.). It will also lend credibility to the victim: having accusations presented by a neutral third party would reduce the temptation to excuse the perpetrator's behavior.
In Discord, private messaging is simple, and I'm in favor of mods providing their emails (mine's clickable on this post).
I also propose that moderators be made to run for re-election fairly regularly, so that they have to do a good job if they want to keep the position. We'd need an impeachment process, too.
Having mod powers contingent upon re-election would also make me feel better about the idea of having the mods decide on bans -- which would definitely streamline a process which could use some streamlining.
. . .what this adds up to seems to be changing the PPC from a direct democracy to a representative democracy. I. . . I think I'm okay with that idea.
--Key
What you get, then, is moderators who are where they are because they're popular and good at getting voted for, moreso than the most qualified.
However, as it stands now, who would we choose? The PGs? Ignoring current events and questions, I'm pretty sure they're not chosen because of their finely-tuned moral compasses. They're chosen because they can look at somebody's work and determine, well, whether or not said person is ready to write for the PPC. Unfortunately, however, they're basically the highest authority figure we have around right now, so if we wanted to make the position equivalent with previously existing structures, that is who would get the job.
Also, there is the question of qualifications. What makes somebody good for the job? How do they prove they fulfill those requirements? And, of course, what do we do when somebody looks to meet them, but falls short in practice? As I believe you mentioned an impeachment process in Discord and it might as well be brought here, what on your thoughts on how that would work?
Frankly there are more questions than answers at this point, but here's a few thoughts from how the Discord seemed to be leaning:
* Impeachment would be carried out by community vote. A member of the community with a grievance would state their grievance in a board post and present their evidence, and there would be a voting and discussion period opened to the community (1-2 weeks?) where it is determined whether or not the grievance merits removal, or possibly some other sanction.
* Moderators would be either newly selected, or empowered PGs.
* Moderators would not get a vote in impeachment proceedings, for reasons relating to potential conflicts of interest.
* I jokingly suggested we dispense with the idea of democracy and just appoint hS king of the PPC, but I don't think anyone would like that.
As for your other questions, I'll have to come back to this. The traits and skills that make a good moderator are obvious. The process to select and prove them, not so much.
If not, this might be a case of the current board not being ideal for our needs.
Have the mods always put their email addresses in their title lines. I don't think YWA has proper private messaging, so I had to think of a workaround.
Who are those other two people who named July a bully, and who are the people who got driven out of the PPC because of her.
Data Junkie mentioned July's bullying, though. So did the troll. The part about people being driven out was my interpretation of something that came up a while ago, though I believe Tray-Gnome's name was brought up specifically. I can go digging, if you like.
They are, in order, a) a person who nearly got banned for abusive behaviour and then threw themselves out of the Board after seeing that their bad behaviour isn't welcome, b) a troll and c) a person who left the PPC after abusing hS and Nesh, returned to poke at sensitive things and throw names around, and left afterwards.
I'm inclined to think that this sorta accusation is baseless. Bad blood existing between people (like Ix and July, me and LilySinful AKA Tray-Gnome, etc) doesn't necessarily mean that it's immediately bullying.
She left because this community clearly supports bullies and bigots, but will deny it to the death. And it will eventually be the death of the community with Crow's blessing, as she would say.
There are approximately four matches to Orwell, aka Toroll. There are many matches to Data Junkie.
Orwell is a banned user. So far as I recall, Data Junkie has not been banned, but has stated that they were leaving.
It is up to the community to decide whether Data Junkie and Toroll aka Orwell are identical. If they are, Data Junkie should be considered a banned user and their posts deleted on sight.
A screenshot of the search results will be posted on request.
Just asking as someone who doesn't really understand the concept/function behind IP addresses. Do these matches guarantee that Orwell is Data, or is it potentially just coincidence based on their geographic locations?
—doctorlit prepares himself for disappointing answer
..is that they live close enough together to have used the same IP address at some point. It's not a Tor node, but I believe Orwell let slip that they were using a coffee shop's internet in one of their recent posts.
So, yeah. Suspect, but not conclusive.
An IP links to a specific computer. It can change, that's certainly possible, but... 170-odd of Data Junkie's 217 posts came from that address. Only 4 of 17 of Orwell's did. But one Data Junkie post came after the Orwell posts. It seems unlikely that a) the IP would switch and then switch back, and b) it would do so right when Data Junkie left, then jump back just in time for them to make one more post.
It is conceivable that Data Junkie posted from a single non-home location 9/10ths of the time, and that Orwell-aka-Toroll - a troll who has talked an awful lot about Data Junkie, and made similar attacks on the community to them - happens to live nearby and use the same location, but being a very etiquette-conscious flamer troll, hasn't ever mentioned this.
But it seems unlikely. Occam's razor says that the troll who derailed Data Junkie's ban is probably Data Junkie, and that as Orwell they normally posted elsewhere or through Tor.
hS
IP addresses are owned by ISPs, and are therefore usually connected to routers*, not cleint-end computers. The rest of your conclusions, however, I have no problem with; Data Junkie wasn't exactly healthy for the community, so I have no issues with blocking him on conjecture now.
*My understanding is that each customer of an ISP is given a number of IP addresses for their use, so any computer connecting to that customer's router will be given one of those IP addresses. If there are enough different people using that router, the IP addresses will start being reused for new unique users.
This is probably one of the more relevant times y'all could be talking about this, given that I've got an ethical hacking midterm tomorrow, and IP address stuff is important for that.
So, IP addresses. The general point is that computers need a way to refer to other computers located on a network. A name is nice for humans but rather useless for network people, because there's basically no correlation between how similar two names are and how to get to them. So, everyone on the public Internet gets a number to identify them so they can talk and be talked to called an IP address. Every computer keeps some notion of how to reach any other IP address (your machine knows that it can get to anywhere from your router, your router knows that either your ISP can do it or you're looking for another device on the network, and your ISP has a big routing table of IP address ranges and who it has to go through to reach them)
There's two versions of the Internet Protocol (IP), and I'll discuss IPv4 first. With IPv4, your number is 32 bits long, and usually written aaa.bbb.ccc.ddd, where the individual fields are 8 bits long (because four numbers between 0 and 255 are easier to remember than one really big number.
When folks were first designing the Internet, they sure weren't expecting there to be 2^32 (minus a bit) computers on it. Problems were beginning to arise a while back, so a "solution" was devised. Your ISP only gives you one IPv4 address. "But, Tomash!" you object, "I have a computer and a phone and a smart microwave all on the same connection." This is where the nasty evil hack comes in. Your router only gives you a private IP address, usually of the form 192.168.X.Y. When your computer sends out data labeled "From: 192.168.1.5, port [high number], To: 45.56.119.192, port 80" (that'll hit the Board's server), your router secretly rewrites that to say "From: [your public IP address], port [other high number], To: 45.56.119.192, port 80". Then, when the Board sends back its reply labeled "From: 45.56.119.192, port 80, To: [your public IP address], port [other high number]", your router remembers that [other high number] corresponds to [high number] on 192.168.1.5 (that'd be your computer), and so it re-writes the packet back so your computer never notices the deception. This has the drawback (and, if you're a person who writes terrible insecure code I'm looking at you device manufacturers, feature) that your computer can't have a conversation initiated with it, which is a bit annoying for, among other things, multiplayer games and voice calling. For practical purposes, this means that sharing an IPv4 address with someone means you're in the same house or coffeeshop (unless you count, say, all the mobile phones in Qatar, which all share an IP)
Mostly, people didn't mind this packet re-writing business, even though it causes annoying problems. But the Internet kept growing. Several other things were done to save on IPv4 addresses (a big one is that, when you connect to a website, you have to tell the website its own name, so that the same server/IP can serve multiple domain names). However, we're still running out of IPv4 addresses, and in fact, we're more or less out at this point.
Because 32 bits wasn't enough, we moved to 128 bits. Sort of. An IPv6 address, unless it's abbreviated, is aaaa:bbbb:cccc:dddd:eeee:ffff:gggg:hhhh, where each of the alphabet groups is written in base 16. This is more than enough addresses, we swear. This is even expected to be true once it gets mentioned that, right now, you don't get one IPv6 address from your ISP, you get 2^64 of them! (like, you, personally, if your ISP is with the program, can hand out an IPv4 Internet's worth of IPv4 Internets). There's a nice fiddly mechanism for how the eeee through hhhh bits get determined, but suffice to say, if it has an IPv6 address, it's directly on the Internet again. No more connection rewriting. Yay!
For practical purposes, two IPv6 address are in the same house/coffeeshop/... if the first four groups of numbers (and A through F are numbers, whoever told you otherwise?) match.
Are you saying you told me so, paraphrasing my post as 'I told you so', or saying 'I told you (all) so, and hS agrees with me'?
Tone and the internet don't mix, so it seems best to check. ^_^
hS
I was on the record at the time as thinking the timing of the appearance of Orwell (we were discussing Data Junkie's ban) was, if you'll forgive the WWII-era phrasing, "too velvety-arsed and Rolls-Royce for me". It was too neat, too much of a coincidence. I was written off as being paranoid. Hell, I wrote myself off as being paranoid. That I was right? Well... not gonna lie, I feel vindicated.
I didn't mean it as a slight on anyone, and if anyone took it that way I can only apologise.
I believe you, but might as well have it out there.
Let me just check the archives, though. And I'm still concerned about July apparently forcing Ix away last time.
The context.
Iximaz's leaving thread.
Iximaz saying she's not leaving because of July.
I think that's the relevant stuff.
hS
Yeah, it looks like my memory's not as good as I thought. A lot of people seem to have felt victimised by July, but as I've never seen them post, I can't speak to their character, so I'm dropping that.
Oh, and Ix did leave because of July, in case you missed that. I seem to remember that it was just July blowing up prematurely rather than actively bullying, though, so that's fine.
I think we should talk about the other part of my post now. *apologetic*
The post I linked to was the one she referenced in saying 'I just said I didn't'.
hS
I didn't take them seriously until Ix's post. Sometimes people with legitimate grievances turn to trolling to get their message across - Iximaz saying similar things made me think they might have had a point. Just so you know why I bothered bringing them up (and I'm sorry now that I did).
Some of the articles of the Constitution (specifically 1 and 10.5) say that bullying will not be tolerated. That's all they say. I mean, 10.5 does say that persistent rule-breakers will be asked to leave the community, but that's not enough. Nowhere in the Constitution is a procedure given for exactly what to do.
What I'm trying to say is that we need an addition to the Constitution detailing exactly what we should do if a situation like this comes up again. For instance: we could add that we won't just let a situation subside; a rule that says we continue discussing about said situation until a decision is reached, no matter how long that takes. Something like that.
Final point: we desperately need an article that somehow, someway, keeps us from being complacent about things and just letting them slide after some time.
Tentatively because, frankly, an article isn't going to actually make people do anything. We can't just write some text saying "do this" on the Constitution, we have to convince people to actually act on it.
Of course, the PPC's entire mentality towards bullies needs to change. But we have to start somewhere. Baby steps.
Since we're in the discussion phase, though, I thought it important to note down that step we'll have to take.