Subject: Regarding Scapegrace.
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Posted on: 2017-05-17 15:07:00 UTC

There is, unfortunately, one outstanding issue that has been brought to my attention. I've attempted to speak with Scape in private about this, but gotten no response after three days from my latest message, six since my first. Since I know she's been on the Board, and I believe she's been in communication with others by e-mail in this time, I'm forced to conclude she's attempting to dodge the issue. Therefore, it's up to the Board to make sure that isn't allowed to continue.

The issue is this: back in March, when people in Discord were worried about Iximaz and trying to pin the blame on July, Scapegrace sent a long series of text messages to July, which included some very insulting and hurtful remarks. July mentioned this and quoted one of the remarks in her goodbye post. There's more where that came from, but it's not mine to share. As far as I am aware, Scapegrace has yet to acknowledge that this happened or to apologize for it.

I am now calling for both to be done here, in public. I understand that Scapegrace was upset and worried about Iximaz at the time, but caring for Iximaz doesn't excuse attacking whoever she happens to be mad at at the time, especially when they have no idea what happened to prompt it. That's not how we want our members to handle their problems in this community, which is exactly what this thread is about.

Furthermore, I'm given to understand that July hasn't been the only target of this, meaning Iximaz's friends taking it upon themselves to have a go at whoever she has a beef with, whether behind their backs or to their faces. hS has been a target to a lesser degree, as seen here (apology for that is here), and SkarmorySilver's name came up, too, though I'll leave it to him to say whether he feels that's the case.

I think there's a fine line between commiserating with a friend over something you don't agree with and being a jerk to people you don't like. Not everyone has to be best friends with everyone else, that's fine, but if not getting along with someone spills over into actual attacks on them, that line has definitely been crossed.

A public apology to July and a promise not to do it again, to anyone, is required. If Scape fails to deliver said apology and promise, I leave it to the community to decide what the consequences should be.

As for me, until that happens, I must regretfully withdraw my previous compliments to Scapegrace, and register my disappointment both in my own judgement and in Scapegrace, who accepted my kind remarks knowing she had done this and had expressed no remorse for it. I've also extended my own apologies to July for straight-up forgetting that Scape had attacked her recently, even if I didn't know the full extent of it.

~Neshomeh

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