Subject: Truer words haven't been spoken.
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Posted on: 2017-05-11 18:35:00 UTC

I've been around the PPC since August of 2014, so perhaps that makes me a "Middlebie" of sorts too. In that time I've seen a number of debates, but most of the once I participated in involved newbies not yet understanding how to ingratiate themselves into our community as well as the rest of us do. A few have gone off the deep end and either left on their own volition or, in one or two rare cases, gotten themselves outright banned. This may have clouded my perception and skewed it somewhat in the favor of newbies, because speaking as someone who's caused trouble with online groups before due to both lack of familiarity and a massively inflated teenage ego, I can sympathize more with being new than being old, as it were.

With this in mind, it took me a while to start realizing that being an "oldbie" does not automatically make you a voice of authority. Nor does it guarantee that you'll be welcome - look what happened with JulyFlame and Desdendelle. In fact, it was the massive flock-fest this past March that led me to realize that the people who've been around for as long as these two, or hS, or Nesh, or others whom we regard as "oldbies" have burdens of their own. I'm awful at pointing fingers at anyone and certainly won't do so here - we all make mistakes after all - but I can now say that these burdens have been ignored for too long simply because nobody considered speaking up against what we all thought were "voices of authority" - I'm pretty sure anyone who considered it worried that such an action would lead to the community turning against them for opposing a well-respected community member. This same mentality may explain why people are too scared to stand up to oppressive leaders in politics, challenge the views of eminent thinkers, or openly call out celebrities on their poor behavior.

This has to stop. Right now.

I've lived under the roof of a family who's been controlling myself and my brother for over two decades now. I obviously owe it to my parents for shaping me into the person that I am today, and if it weren't for their love and guidance I wouldn't have gotten my graduate degrees, or managed to get myself employed in the first place. That doesn't change the fact that both of them aren't that good at parenting, though - a doting mother who struggles to address our problems effectively, and a father who, as he himself has apologetically lampshaded, has been known to put too much "tough" into "tough love". I've tried to speak up and try to get them both to improve, but for the gods' sake, they're my parents. Talking back to your parents is a societal no-no, even if it's for their good and your own. And so the struggles continue. Perhaps my analogy for the whole "Oldbies vs. Newbies" interaction is not a good one - though our community is very much like family, every PPC boarder is still an independent thinker. But for my taste, I'm very much seeing a sort of an extended family dynamic among all of us on the Board, and while I can't speak for anyone else, I can't help but think that it's become so dysfunctional in light of the events this past March, a feeling which is both depressing and downright cringeworthy.

I still feel I should've spoken up sooner, and I'm pretty sure most if not all of the "Middlebies" feel the same way. But if the Newbies don't know enough to point out things that long-running members need to improve upon, let alone problems that have plagued the community as a whole for so long, then that leaves us and us alone as the ones to speak up. And speak up we should - as soon as we possibly can. If there's one thing this community needs, it's damage control, and perhaps us "Middlebies" may be exactly that - the mediating forces that can help restore the PPC community's collective sense of being one big, happy Internet family.

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