Subject: Heirarchy
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Posted on: 2017-04-26 17:09:00 UTC
1) I don't know that Coordinating in Private is necessarily a problem. I mean, don't get me wrong, it can absolutely be as you've described, but it isn't always (or often?) the case.
I think it all boils down to intent and what does this coordination look like? For example:
"Hey, I'm having issues with this person/story/activity, can you give me some advice?" Totally fine. Asking someone, in private, to advise you before you take action or say something is a really good idea if you are unsure how to proceed. I know that some PGs do this *cough*me-and-Nesh-in-our-apartment*cough* if we don't know how to approach a specific permission request or issue.
"Hey, come back me up with this person/story/activity, I feel like I'm the only one speaking up." Probably fine. Asking someone you know feels a certain way to speak up can sometimes be necessary. We have a tendency to stay quiet when we're uncomfortable and we tend toward introversion. This is part of why important topics drop off with no resolution as often as they do. Just be careful that this doesn't turn into this next example.
"Hey, this person/story/activity needs to not be talking/happening anymore, help me shut them/it up/down." Not fine. Enlisting people to attack someone or something you don't like is Not Cool. The major difference between this and the "Probably Fine" example is that this is gathering an army to silence, while the other is gathering voices in an attempt to be heard.
I guess the point I am trying to make is that taking to emails, PMs, and private chats is a necessary tool for communication on the internet. It can allow people to, for instance, anonymously voice their concerns through a third party *cough*this-thread*cough* if they feel uncomfortable bringing them up themselves. It can be a path toward making one's-self heard, if done properly. And I don't want to do anything that might make that harder.
2) I can see how Assuming Authority over a piece of the community or canon can be a problem, but I don't think it is one we currently suffer from. If I'm wrong on that, someone please let me know.
3) Argument from Oldbie is complicated, isn't it? Let's break it down.
3a) I don't believe I've seen anyone say anything even remotely like "We should do this because I say so, and I've been around since the Stone Age." What I have seen is people using their relevant experience as part of an argument. Something akin to "I don't think we should do (Thing). We tried (Thing) back in the Stone Age and it was a huge mess." That's not a bug, it's a feature. I think it is right that Oldbies should use their experience in the community to help inform newer members of the community's history when making decisions as a group.
3b) This one may be true. There is a tendency among newer members of the community to get stars in their eyes when someone who's stories they've enjoyed talks. This may cause them to give preference to that person's arguments. However, I have two problems with the assumption that this will happen. Firstly, the idea that there is anything we can do about it. I don't think there is. Secondly, the idea that even star-stricken Newbies will blindly follow someone who has no real point. It is a disservice to Newbies to think that way.
3c&d) I think these both go back to something Nesh said recently, it is easier to give the benefit of the doubt to someone you know the character of. The longer someone is around, the more of their character we get to see.
That said, these two points have never really been relevant until recent years. We were pretty good about being civil and respectful, so there was little need for punishment. This is troubling, but I don't have any idea how to fix it.
4a) I agree with Delta Juliette that people who make an exclusive space tend to have a reason they did it. I think that is the absolute wrong way to deal with their reasons, but they do have them.
4b) I think making decisions for the group, in an exclusive location, is not good. That said, I am a fan of getting a small group of like-minded individuals together and saying "we all believe that (topic) is a problem, what are some solutions that we can present to the community?" before then making a post about it and offering your solutions for discussion. Again, it depends on intent. If the intent is to get your thoughts together and then present to the community, then fine. If your intent is to get your thoughts together and then try and dictate to the community, then not fine.
Anyway, I've gone on quite long enough here. I might address other areas of this thread, or I might not.
-Phobos