Subject: Neshomeh's thoughts.
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Posted on: 2017-04-27 15:46:00 UTC

On Battlefield Mentality/Lashing Out

I also think this is pretty clearly addressed by the Constitution. Personal attacks are not acceptable under any circumstances; just because someone else has lowered themself to ad hominem doesn't mean we have to follow suit.

Unless a particular person does this all the time without remorse, though, I don't think it's necessarily punishable. We all get carried away and screw up sometimes. We just need to keep reminding ourselves and each other to take a deep breath and think before speaking. If you can't be civil, walk away until you can. If an issue is really very important to you, don't you owe it to yourself and the issue to make your case in a rational way? Foaming at the mouth will usually make people take you and your cause less seriously, not more. If you practice self-awareness and restraint, you will get better at it every time.

We're not Vulcans, so there's nothing inherently wrong with having strong feelings about something, but remember that feelings are not facts. Just because you have strong feelings doesn't mean you're automatically in the right; just because your friend has strong feelings doesn't mean they're automatically in the right, either.

On Personal Issues Elsewhere

I think this sort of thing has to be evaluated on a case-by-case basis. On the one hand, nothing says that everyone in the PPC is required to be best friends with everyone else in order to participate. On the other hand, being hateful is bad no matter where it happens, so if we find out about it, depending on how bad it is, we may indeed wish to prevent it from happening here by removing the offending party. On the other hand, it's pretty hard to make a good call on a case where we might not have all the facts because they exist someplace the rest of us don't or can't go.

I guess all I can say is, if you do have a serious problem with someone else, like they're making abusive or threatening remarks to you elsewhere, or you think they've followed you here for the sole purpose of making you uncomfortable, you'll have to say so and tell/show us why very clearly, so that we can understand. All other concerns aside, we can't help with a situation we don't know about.

On Jumping to Conclusions

This is bad, don't do it. Let's all remember that it is never wrong to want more information, and see above note on thinking before speaking.

I think it's too ephemeral to be punishable, though, unless it inevitably turns into lashing out and attacking others.

~Neshomeh

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