Subject: My thoughts (please let me stop):
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Posted on: 2017-04-25 10:34:00 UTC

Keeping Issues Private

I don't know what we can do about this. We've rewritten the Constitution so many times to try and highlight it. Heck, even this thread's precursor barely got a handful of replies, and I can hardly believe that they're the only outstanding issues. I don't know.

Ignoring Complaints

I agree that this is a problem, and that the desire to not stir up more trouble is probably mostly responsible. We need to be sharper on this - probably not immediately if there's a broader argument, but after a couple of weeks. Which is basically what I'm doing here, heaven help me.

Abandoning Discussion

Please. Don't. Do. This. >:(

Bearing Grudges/Lack of Reform

These could have been lumped together as 'patterns of behaviour' (yes, that old bugbear). That's a concept which has previously been used to justify attacks as 'I remember you doing this thing twice, years back, therefore I interpret everything you do in that light', but it can also be a real problem: people who do something, apologise, and then do it again six months later.

I don't feel that it's reasonable to require an apology to be accepted before it counts. If the apology is recognised as sincere by the PPC community, then a grieved party who refuses to accept it (either by specifically rejecting it or by not replying) is being unreasonable; actions they take stemming from that refusal might be attacks under the Constitution.

I do think that throwing in a quick reminder (after an apology) that under the Constitution, doing the same thing again might lead to a ban, would be a good idea - it makes it clear that we're not just saying 'you apologised so we'll forget all about it'. This can be done by anyone - it doesn't need to be Official Language, just a note to say 'we remember this happened, make sure you change'.

And, uh, then we need to remember it happened, and hold them to that apology. If they keep doing the same thing over and over, or if they start acting in a way that suggests they don't feel bad over what happened, we should revisit the problem.

(Am I done? I mean, haha no, but I think I'm done for this hour or so.)

hS

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