Subject: What my dictionary says:
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Posted on: 2017-04-29 22:07:00 UTC

Bully: intimidate or frighten someone
Harass: torment someone by subjecting them to constant bullying or interference
Stalk: harass someone with unwanted or obsessive attention

I believe that intent matters for bullying, but not for harassment or stalking. Deliberate harassment or stalking would be bullying, in my mind, but it's possible to harass someone without intent. Of course, once it's pointed out to the perpetrator, any further instances of the behaviour should probably be considered to involve intent; you can only claim ignorance once.

Basically, I'd add "deliberately" to the bullying definition, and also add "upset" to the possible results of it, but the dictionary otherwise lines up with my understanding of the words.

(Also note that "deliberately" doesn't necessarily mean that you consciously understand the victim's feelings - it includes things like deliberately building yourself up in a way that makes others feel bad, regardless of whether you recognise the effect you're having on others. I think hS's "reasonable person would anticipate" clause covers my feelings on this.)

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