Subject: While we have indeed had a few conflicts...
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Posted on: 2017-05-17 19:00:00 UTC

...I should also note that in most cases, it was because of me doing or saying something foolish, and I always immediately apologized and backpedaled the second I was called out on them, a habit which I have picked up from the days just before and since the DeviantArt group fiasco I mentioned downthread. The one or two instances I recall when Scape continued pressing the issues after my apologies resulted in her being called out for doing so as well, after which the matter was dropped. (And AFAIK, only Scape has gone that far, and none of her peers have unless I, in a fit of irrational emotions, gave them a legitimate reason to do so.) The one and only time when Scape attacked me without any justification was when I paged the Board at large for a collab request last year, and once again, she was immediately scolded for it (by Ix, IIRC). However, one thing I also feel is worth pointing out is that Scape apologized to me for this kerfuffle and the previous incidents, both publicly and via PM, shortly after the fact. I believe that is a rational response, and I'm glad to see that she has been consistently working hard to improve her behavior.

The thing that hurt so much after the dA incident was that only a few people called out the people responsible for being insulting, and fewer still for hurting my feelings, because they weren't familiar with my side of the story and were mostly unaware that it was my stereotypical inflated teenage ego and inexperience that led to things blowing up in my face. Lack of action can be taken as a lack of support for the affected party. I have to say therefore that I admire both the Board and Scape herself for their swift response and willingness to make amends and curb the bad behavior almost the moment they realized that something had gone wrong. That's a level of civility most people who get caught up in Internet drama don't have.

So all in all, I do feel that Scape has caused problems with me in the past, but the fact that she's both acknowledged/apologized for them and her substantial efforts to improve are laudable in my book. I sadly cannot condone her actions towards July, though, from what I know, and it's actually quite relieving to know that she feels horrible for those as well. Her apology to July just below is a commendable gesture, but I must also provide the caveat that going forward she has to indeed not handle anyone, EVER, in the same manner that she did during the incident in March. Remember: On the Internet, you never know who you can hurt with just a single sentence, especially in places where you cannot take it back.

Also, a more personal P.S. paging Scape herself: Sorry for not being around to continue our co-write, since I've been scooped up by so many IRL things that I have far too little time to do all the Internet stuff I want to, let alone write PPC stuff. I also understand completely that such circumstances also apply to you as well AFAIK, and I just hope that we can find the time to continue writing together as soon as our horrendously clogged schedules allow it. (I mean, the co-write itself kinda is our way of making up for that last kerfuffle we had, so...)

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