Subject: Re: You can have an example, actually.
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Posted on: 2017-04-27 21:33:00 UTC

We see a different picture than the one you are painting. Let us explain.

Link 1: Doing exactly what the Constitution says you should in this case. Seriously. It was explained what Tomash had done, and you gave him and anyone else involved Step One in making amends.

Link 2: You say demanding, we say pleading. You were clearly in pain and asking people to please not leave. You then presented a means by which we might, as a group, heal some of the wounds. And it seems to have been wanted, or you wouldn't have had anything to share now.

Link 3: "Please do not...because..." Politely asking that people not do something, and backing it up with a reason is not the work of the dictator you seem to think yourself to be.

Link 4: Because we, as a group, pretty clearly said we didn't want them.


All in all, we think you're confusing assuming authority and assuming responsibility. What we see from those examples is not an arrogant jerk issuing arbitrary demands for the sake of his own advancement, but rather a poor schmuck who always steps up to try to solve problems in the best way he knows how, and who sees things through to an end result even when it's difficult. This is often called "being a leader." You're welcome to stop if you want to, but we'd rather see more people start.

And, we know you've been attacked before for peoples' perception that you were becoming a tyrant. But you know what? Perception is not reality. Just because someone believes a thing, does not make it true.

Maybe we're off base, though. We're also subject to that bit about perception, after all. But we really think you are being too hard on yourself.

-Phobos & Neshomeh

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