Subject: Reply to Zing and Tomash
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Posted on: 2017-05-26 15:40:00 UTC

Re. this post and Tomash's post here.

I'm afraid I don't have a lot of time, but in brief:

No, neither of your names have come up specifically. I haven't heard any other specific names.

I think the "social dynamics" issue here is that some people feel that Ix's friends constitute a clique, and that this clique is dominating the PPC scene in a way that puts off people who aren't "in." To be clear, I don't think this is Iximaz's fault. We like her, we like her contributions, that's fine. I also think this is a situation that can be alleviated by more words from more different people, when it comes to writing and to community stuff. Folks, you're free to do your own thing regardless of what anybody else is doing. It's a free Board.

However, do be aware of the nature of cliques, and their pitfalls for those who are "in" as well as those who are "out." Zing, for instance, I'd caution you that, if you don't feel you can disagree with Ix without risking serious consequences to your friendship, that's not good. Maybe I'm reading something into your words that's not there, in which case do please correct me, but still, that's an example of the sort of thing to watch out for: feeling pressure to go along with Ix, or the rest of the group, in spite of your own feelings. Especially when it comes to how welcome other people are made to feel in/around the group.

Again, just to be clear, I don't say any of this is Iximaz's fault, because that would imply deliberate emotional manipulation on her part, which I do not believe is happening. I think it's basically a side effect of having a magnetic personality.

Just, y'know, be aware of how other people feel, and how you feel, too. Maybe make an effort to review stuff by "outsiders" as much as you review "insiders." Stuff like that.

~Neshomeh

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