Subject: Starting from the top...
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Posted on: 2017-04-26 16:04:00 UTC
First, attempting to allay the assumption of authority: I have fairly strong opinions on these topics, formed over much experience from both sides. I word my opinions strongly. Please don't take self-expression as dictation. {= )
On Disrespecting Your Betas:
This is bad, don't do it. If you ask someone for their opinions on your work, you are obligating yourself to at least give those opinions some thought. You are also obligating yourself to allow them the time to do the job properly. I raise an eyebrow every time I see a request for betas go up one day followed by a mission post the next day. I dunno how much free time y'all have, but surely it takes more than a day for multiple betas (because it's usually multiple) to all read through a work and give thoughtful concrit of it, and then for the writer to make thoughtful changes based on those remarks? I'd like to see us collectively take a deep breath and adjust our expectations to more like at least a week between asking for betas and publishing a story.
On Bad Conduct as a Beta:
I agree with Ix that failing to beta at all is far more common than abusing one's authority as a beta. To beta is, at its heart, to give concrit, and thorough concrit at that. If you can't find anything at all to say about a piece, positive or negative, other than "you're good!", you are doing it wrong.
Also, and this applies to both parties, I think there's a large issue with failure to communicate. A writer needs to be up front about their expectations of their betas, and betas need to be up front about their availability and ability to meet said expectations. In cases where someone has posted without the go-ahead from their beta(s), I seem to recall a lot of "I hadn't heard anything for a while, so I didn't know they weren't done."
Writers, if you're not sure, ask. Betas, if something comes up and the job is going to take longer than you initially thought, say so. It's as simple as that.
On Not Taking Concrit:
This is bad, don't do it. To elaborate on each point:
1. It is polite to acknowledge it when someone comments on your work. If they have a question or uncertainty, address it. If you choose not to make changes based on concrit, say so, with a little explanation as to why.
All this should be done politely.
(Need I say the concrit itself should also be polite?)
2. Look, folks. If you're not emotionally prepared to take criticism, don't publish your work. This goes for all writers, not just fanwriters.
The fact that one person may not like a specific aspect of your story does not mean it is garbage. People are allowed to have opinions that differ. It's okay. If you're not emotionally prepared to stand by your writing decisions—you did have a reason for making them at the time, right?—don't publish.
Also, y'know, have reasons for doing things the way you did them. That tends to help. {= )
On Falling Short of PPC Standards Elsewhere:
We are not fandom police, we have no right to go around dictating what people can and can't do in other fandom spaces.
That said, it's perfectly reasonable to want to get to know each other better and see what our friends have created. If we find out it's really not good, then the member responsible may certainly expect to hear about it, and to suffer a loss of respect in the PPC if they don't take it with some aplomb. If nothing else, nobody likes a hypocrite.
I'm not saying there's anything wrong with wanting to create stuff just for fun in a space free from critique sometimes, but maybe don't expect to have a space like that on an open, public platform like FF.net?
I mean... I'm writing fanfic again. I'm doing it because I just want to have some fun and maybe please some people who like the same sorts of things I do in the fandom. I'm not out to create Great Literature, so when I publish to FF.net, I'm taking a risk that somebody will tell me it sucks. I accept that risk, and I accept my responsibility to myself, as someone who claims to care about good writing, to maintain some standards. If you guys read my silly fics and were like "Uh, Nesh, your OC is being Sueish here, you should maybe stop that," I would listen. I might not necessarily change anything in a piece I'd already moved on from, but I wouldn't dismiss it out of hand, either, and I'd take it on board for next time. That's the aplomb I'm talking about.
General Thoughts:
Writers walk a fine line between confidence enough to publish and arrogance; between humility enough to accept criticism and self-hate. Most of the writers I know suffer more from an imbalance of the latter than of the former, and perhaps that can make us overly harsh toward people who suffer from the former because dammit, don't we wish we had that problem, those lucky jerks?
I don't think any of it needs to be punished beyond the social consequences of loss of respect, which arise naturally. That said, let's make sure we don't get carried away with judging people. Remember that the learning process never ends. We've all come a long way from where we once were, and we all still have a long way to go. Some of us may need to learn to be more assertive than we like to be in order to communicate effectively. Some of us may need to learn to turn down our egos so we can listen more. Either way, we all make mistakes in the process, so we all need patience and forgiveness sometimes.
~Neshomeh said a lot of words, and hopes they make sense.