Subject: Looking for definitions: 'harass', 'bully', 'stalk'.
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Posted on: 2017-04-27 11:14:00 UTC

Since these have come up a few times in the thread and in emails I had setting it up, I think we need to discuss what these words actually mean. The following are what I think of when I hear them; I think it would be good to get a consensus on what everyone means.

Harassment: a course of action which deliberately forces the victim to pay attention to you (whether by repeatedly trying to interact with them or by attacking them).

Stalking: following the victim to new locations, for example, between chat channels.

Bullying: a course of action taken with the intent of, or such that any reasonable person would anticipate, upsetting the victim.

In the last case, I think bullying has to be repeated (otherwise it's 'an attack', which is also bad, but different), and that something like 'I lash out when I get stressed/tired/depressed' doesn't count unless you're deliberately putting yourself into situations where that lashing out will hit the same person again. Bullying, to me, is either deliberate, or willful ignorance of the consequences.

hS

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