Subject: I'd modify those a bit.
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Posted on: 2017-04-28 14:46:00 UTC

Broadly I agree, but I think it's important to note that the behaviors are unwanted by the target. It helps very much if they can say so explicitly (e.g. "Please leave me alone"; "Seriously, I said no, stop it"), but since that's not always the case, it may fall to observers to discern as much.

With bullying, I definitely agree that it has to be a pattern of behavior, not just one or two dissociated incidents. I also think it's generally understood as an attempt to empower the bully by disempowering or enforcing the (perceived) lower status of the victim. I think it's that aspect of power dynamics that sets bullying apart from just being a jerk.

Being a jerk is also bad, of course.

~Neshomeh

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