Subject: Here is a list of things that are Not Okay by me.
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Posted on: 2017-05-10 17:12:00 UTC

In no particular order:

- Plagiarism
- Stalking
- Harassment/inciting others to harassment
- Verbal/emotional abuse
- Angry, violent outbursts
- Threats of death or bodily harm to others
- Brushing off expressions of wanting to hurt others as "just a joke"
- Using [whatever] as an excuse for not playing by the rules in an opt-in community
- Disrespecting people's boundaries and privacy on sensitive issues
- Insisting that someone else has to admit they're more wrong than you before you'll take responsibility for your own bad behavior.

I think that about covers the most serious stuff. For the record, I do not mean to imply that any of these things are, or are not, on the same level as any of the other things. This is just more or less the order in which I thought of them.

As far as I can tell, both parties have done things that are wrong, and both are refusing to back down at this point. I have no idea what either of them expects of the other, nor what they expect us, the community, to do about it.

I mean, what, should we kick them both out? I don't want to do that, and I doubt it would help anything, but if neither one can put aside their anger (and dare I say pride?) enough to move on, and both insist on continuing to hate each other, what other choice is there if we don't want this to keep bubbling up into drama in our community?

Somebody please come up with something. I'm tapped out of ideas.

~Neshomeh

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