Subject: In response to this part of your post:
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Posted on: 2017-05-24 06:44:00 UTC

(Yeah, this is the post I mentioned wanting to make--if there was another, I'm no longer sure what it was.)

Furthermore, I'm given to understand that July hasn't been the only target of this, meaning Iximaz's friends taking it upon themselves to have a go at whoever she has a beef with, whether behind their backs or to their faces. [...]

I think there's a fine line between commiserating with a friend over something you don't agree with and being a jerk to people you don't like. Not everyone has to be best friends with everyone else, that's fine, but if not getting along with someone spills over into actual attacks on them, that line has definitely been crossed.


As someone who has been visibly close to Iximaz for what I believe is now a few years, I feel it's important that I say, in public here (irregardless of how many people are still reading this thread by now), that to my knowledge I have never, and will never, do this. I try to hold myself back from situations when I'm angry until such time as I can think a little more clearly; I am very much not in the habit of going around attacking people. I sincerely hope that should I ever have a problem with someone I would bring it to the Board (or, if I felt it could be resolved easily, in private) as calmly and clearly as I could manage. I also hope that I have done so in the past; if I have failed in that, I sincerely apologise now, and hope that I did the same at the time.

I have certainly done the commiseration thing. It's a pretty common thing to do with your friends, even in cases when you don't agree with their opinion or you just want to be an ear for them to rant to. One can agree that a situation sucks and try to provide support despite one's own opinion, in most times. But I would like to make it clear that I have never gone about attacking people because someone else was upset, and that if I were ever to call someone out about their behavior towards friends of mine I intend it to be with having hopefully heard something from both sides, and most likely presented on the Board and as rationally as possible, unless I felt it could be resolved off-Board.

If I have something important and complex (or potentially controversial) to say, whether it's on the Board or in a chat, I generally read it over and let it sit and read it over again. I do not particularly enjoy arguments, and I find it abhorrent in most cases to curse out or go after someone.

I'm certainly not perfect. Human beings don't tend to be. But I strive to express myself carefully when I'm angry or upset, particularly online and in public online. And I apologized for any time when I've failed to do so, especially if I hurt someone by it.

I doubt that this post was specifically directed towards me. However, given that I've visibly fallen into the category of 'Iximaz's friends' for a while now, I wanted to make it clear that, to my knowledge, I have never joined in behavior like this, and that I have no intention of starting.

~Zing

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